Ok not this pair. Although to be fair we did have a conversation after a reunion where we wondered whether we were a bit odd.
it may be because our first born will never live independently. - it does change your perspective somewhat. It may he because during much of the younger kids school years we were simply too tied up with ds1 & trying to keep him with us & the younger 2 safe to really have time to sharpen any elbows. It may be because we both are completely anti moulding children in our own image or may be because we value all work equally. Some of my closest friends work in roles that many on here would see as beneath them. To be fair I have worked in roles that many on here would see as beneath them. It may be because I work in mental health and see what parental expectations (& nowadays school expectations) can do to kids.
So no, no sharp elbows here. I’m not going to share what my adult kids do but whilst some on this thread would see ds2 as a success (& some would be horrified), I’m sure you’d be saying ‘yes but what is he going to do?’ about ds3 (meaning when is he going to university).
I am proud that that both younger kids are robust, secure, happy (quite a challenge these days), like spending time with us in their busy lives, know what they want to do and are very much doing it.
That’s rather a digression from the starting point of this thread. Tbf I’d like to see education completely rethought across all sectors. Academies need to go. I loathe high stakes exams (although they served me well). There are huge (& increasing) numbers of kids out of school at the moment - and this is probably a bigger problem for local authorities than what to do with any private school closures. Of course ministers should be visiting private schools though - otherwise they’re not even pretending this isn’t an ideological decision rather than pragmatic and that does make them as bad as the Tories.