Paying school fees-where do I even begin? Am an sp and broke-help!!!

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I know this has been done so many times but I think I may be searching the wrong threads as I can't find anything! The plan to send dd to local state until she is 7 has fallen flat as we are not christian enough (due to having to take time out from church attendance to care for terminally ill mother at the weekends fgs!) so am going to have to send her from 4. Where do I even begin with paying the fees-I will be on a good salary when she is 7/8 as I will have qualified as a barrister, but at the moment am entirely broke. However, don't want to send her to bad school where she will learn bad habits until 7 and then get ridiculed by the other children when she does change (which is what happened to me at 13). HELP!!! The prep school is ideal-we looked round at Christmas and she adored it, the headmistress adored her, and she can stay until 18, on top of which it is brilliant in it's league rankings. Help help help help help!!!

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I do also quite seriously think there is more to a school than being Good At Games. As someone who was quite dreadful at them herself but did rather well at the other stuff .

mens sana in corpore sano and all that.

I went to state school and learned Latin, three modern languages and had loads of lunchtime clubs. The marking system was predictable and the higher achievers were adequately challenged.

Oh, and it was in France.

I just want that for my children. I don't want to have to spend £000s every year on achieving that, but I will do it to avoid school where everyone does GNVQ leisure & tourism, bright pupils are not challenged and all they do in games is football and aerobics.

! Cue first response from angry GNVW Leisure and Tourism graduate...

Well, if you're convinced that all state schools are like that, I doubt very much that any brush with reality will change your mind. Strangely enough it's not what I want for my daughters either, but I don't think that the only options are outside the state system.

Still no Xenia then?

They are round here (rural Devon now). Schools are far and few between. Many of the ones in Exeter are unaccountably in or nudging special measures. This is not a social issue, most of the children here are fine, pleasant and polite (few major social issues at all in Exeter really), more of a schools refusing to light required sticks of dynamite to get things done issue.

not Polly Ester, sobernow?

Enid, you curl me up. Who represents you? Have your people call my people and let's organise a charidee fundraiser for all the poor private schools who might lose their charidable status.

I like the way you're talking.

Let's walk and talk.