Paying school fees-where do I even begin? Am an sp and broke-help!!!

[Justtwosecondspoppet]

I know this has been done so many times but I think I may be searching the wrong threads as I can't find anything! The plan to send dd to local state until she is 7 has fallen flat as we are not christian enough (due to having to take time out from church attendance to care for terminally ill mother at the weekends fgs!) so am going to have to send her from 4. Where do I even begin with paying the fees-I will be on a good salary when she is 7/8 as I will have qualified as a barrister, but at the moment am entirely broke. However, don't want to send her to bad school where she will learn bad habits until 7 and then get ridiculed by the other children when she does change (which is what happened to me at 13). HELP!!! The prep school is ideal-we looked round at Christmas and she adored it, the headmistress adored her, and she can stay until 18, on top of which it is brilliant in it's league rankings. Help help help help help!!!

exactly, 29 in DSs class

Couldn't take them swimming at the time as had 3 under 8 (our pool allowed max of 2 under 8 per adult). Did walk everwhere, but was not enough. Had no trampoline (was 7-8 years ago). Half an hour running around the garden was never going to be enough for him.

And we did give a stuff about PE as made all the difference between Tasmanian devil child and calm child.

Duchesse

I looked at 4 state schools for my 4yo DTS and they all provided playtime every day about 3 times a day plus PE several times a week. Our first choice school has 14 lunch time and after schools clubs including football, tag rugby, cricket, karate and fencing.

Also, obesity afflicts privately educated children too.

Try Icesave. They pay 6% and have instant access.

Though, I would question how bad a state school can be until 7/8.

Both of my DSDs went to the local state school until 8YO before transfering to a private school.......

And, and (sorry to be the bearer of bad news!), they'll pick up ALL the same bad habits regardless of what school they go to...

They'll just to tell you to FARK off instead of F*ck off!!!!!

TBH, I think the private school my DSDs go to is great and I will def. send my DS there too in a few years time, but it's not going to protect them from the outside world.... There is a lot of rivalry between my DSDs privte school (which dominates the town) and the largest state school... they are forever causing trouble between themselves and I'd hazard a guess it's not all one sided!!!

mine do french (state primary)
sewing, cookery (clubs), guitar, extra art (after school clubs)

lacrosse (pop lacrosse)

My ds's state church primary had 16 kids in each class.

And we're atheists

lol

16 in each year hre but mixed year classes so about 25 in each class

Mine (for some reason I cannot even begin to fathom but which I find pretentiously pleasing) do Italian at school.

Zazette it was 8 years ago we were making this decision. He was going to be 7 yr 1 month at start of yr and had spent 3 years in classes of 35 (just before they imposed the 30 max limit on classes up to age 7). The school was extremely popular and oversubscribed, glowing Ofsted etc, etc, and they seemed to be able to bend a lot of rules, including the class size thing.

lol at pretentiously pleasing

I love it, Enid. I can drop into the conversation 'oh, yes, my children do Italian at school' and feel all artyboho.

Lacrosse at a state primary Enid - now that is exclusive

i know

its actually only the year 5 and 6s that get to do it, its not really proper lacrosse but fuels dd1 and dd2s Naughtiest girl at school fantasy

I think my ds1 might be learning Italian at state primary, or maybe it's Spanish - or maybe I dreamed it

• I really must take more interest

Our 3rd choice school has 14 in the class - I felt that was too small for my DTS hence why it is 3rd choice.

Other clubs in my first choice school include cookery, dancing, music, choir, gardening, science and art. Plus they all do French from Yr 1(French from yr 1 in my other two choices which also have a plethora of afterschool and lunch time clubs).

Really hope the DTS are offered places[fingers crossed]

There appears to be a morasse of PE opportunities open at the Inferiorettes' school judging by the hockey sticks I have to keep dodging...

(DD1 does Gardening.)

Lacrosse is a really popular sport in Sheffied state schools I have noticed. i had never come across it in schools before moving here.

I see your italian and raise you mandarin chinese. Though dd is only in reception and I think it may be a bit early for her.

we played lacrosse at v bogstandard comp back in 80s

I played lacrosse many years ago at my all girls private school in the deep south

My dses play Dodgeball at school - I don't even know what that is

our primary was offered mandarin at the local prep on sat mornings

great I think until I have frank discussion with prep mum who tells me how pissed off the prep parents are about it 'well come on, if you were paying a fortune every year wouldnt you resent kids turning up getting a freebie?' 'yes but you'd be even more fed up if your school closed because it wasnt fulfilling its charity status'.

I thank you. available for weddings and bar mitzvahs

I love the idea that providing mandarin lessons for the poor goes some way to meeting requirements for charitable status! Hysterical.

Let them eat cake