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Shocked by hatred of kids & parents on TES website

433 replies

kris007 · 20/02/2008 18:52

I've spent a bit of time reading the TES website which contains threads and postings from teachers and I am stunned by the level of hatred and abuse directed towards students and their parents. I am horrified to think that some of these creatures may actually be teaching my kids!
It appears that the "state of war" we read about it British classrooms is by no means one way traffic - the teachers
seem to relish getting in on the all the drama.

OP posts:
Blandmum · 21/02/2008 18:32

It always amuses me that some parents actually seem to think that we go out to 'pick on' their child.

Oh to have that much time on my hands......

I love most of the kids I work with, and I love the parents for trusting them to my care.

Astonishingly that, with very few exceptions, the PITA kids have PITA parents as well.

Thankfully we don't have too many of either....

BoneyBackJefferson · 21/02/2008 18:38

I wonder if Kris realises that the school will be asked by the college for a full report on her dd?

islandofsodor · 21/02/2008 18:42

I attended both a 6th form college (my high school didn't have a 6th form) and then 1n FE college for a 1 year course followed by uni.

At all 3 institutions I was expected to remove my coat for lessons/lectures.

Blandmum · 21/02/2008 18:46

We've had highly disruptive students who were very surprised that the FE collage didn't want them when they read the reference and report.

Some were even surprised when we declined to offer them a place in the sixth form.

Why take a place in a school if you have no intention to follow the rules?

mrz · 21/02/2008 18:53

I know some parents who use the "another school" threat and have been shocked with the "ok we're oversubscribed, it means we can give someone who wants to be here a place" reply.

NKF · 21/02/2008 18:55

And then there are the parents who threaten to go to the press at the drop of a hat.

AbbeyA · 21/02/2008 18:56

My DS had to apply for a place in the 6th form of his own school and have an interview.
I wonder if Kris realises that the school will be rubbing their hands with glee that her daughter is going to become someone else's problem?!

Blandmum · 21/02/2008 18:57

Ohh we've had lots of the 'I'll take DC somewhere else' and then a silent return to the school when they find out that no other schools in the area will take their little cherub.

That's always good for a larf.

Cam · 21/02/2008 18:59

I also wonder if kris realises the state has no obligation to educate her daughter after the age of 16

kiskideesameanoldmother · 21/02/2008 19:02

"Obviously no parent is going to allow their child to follow my dd to the 6th form college without investigating it and comparing it to the current school."

roffle

MicrowaveOnly · 21/02/2008 19:08

I'm impressed that there lots of teachers here who don't hate any of their pupils..if I'm honest i can name a couple who disrupt the class so much every lesson (and no nothing is done by SMT) that I genuinely hate them (for all of 45mins) then they just turn into normal kids again!!

mrz · 21/02/2008 19:12

I think even as parents if we are 100% honest there are times when we find our own children decidedly un likeable so why should teachers feel any different?

MicrowaveOnly · 21/02/2008 19:16

mrz yes and we've got over 100 a week to look after!

janeite · 21/02/2008 19:21

What an honest and sweet post Microwave.

I actually think that I know of only one pupil in the entire school for whom I have, as yet, failed to find any redeeming features. Most of them, even the "wild girls and wide boys" are actually quite nice, at least some of the time!

Original poster
kris007 · 21/02/2008 20:09

College are fully aware of and encouraging my dd's recruitment efforts at her school - so any reference will not be an issue. In fact, she tells me that as gratitude for her efforts they are giving her free membership in after school clubs of her choice. By the way dd is not a brat -
in Canada she received Gov. Gen.'s award for Aids organizing. She is respectful and polite, but won't blindly accept authority and rules that make no sense. A look through history might lead one to conclude that this characterisic has produced more than a few greats!

OP posts:
Blandmum · 21/02/2008 20:13

and more than a few arseholes as well.

I'm glad shes nice.

Next time, check out the rules of a school before you get your child enroled. If you didn't like it, and couldn't support the school riles you should have sent her somewhere else in the first place.

Then you, your dd and I'm sure the school would have been much happier

mrz · 21/02/2008 20:16

Is the college so desperate for sixth form students they have to resort to bribing little girls to bring their friends to play?

NKF · 21/02/2008 20:24

Hmmm. Does the college have trouble getting applicants?

hercules1 · 21/02/2008 21:06

I dont believe for one moment that a college would do this. Unless they are crap and completely desperate but even then..

islandofsodor · 21/02/2008 21:27

Two parents have recently gone to the press at my children's school over issues that are clearly defined inthe school handbook.

Both children left (taking siblings in one case) and the school stood firm. These are our rules, we make you aware of them when accepting a place, you stick by them or you are out.

I don;t agree with some things at school, but you make choices, you pick your battles and we chose the school for certainreasons, so other things we don't necessarily agree with we can live with for the sake of the others.

NKF · 21/02/2008 21:50

I don't believe the college story either.

AbbeyA · 21/02/2008 21:58

The whole college story seems very weird!

Heated · 21/02/2008 22:15

The time I taught a truly horrible GCSE set it clouded my whole day and I would vent with colleagues to get their support, understanding and advice otherwise I would have gone home and sobbed. I can only describe it as metaphorically lancing a painful boil!!

parentalso · 21/02/2008 22:18

kris007

"She is respectful and polite, but won't blindly accept authority and rules that make no sense"

Did I miss something, or did you explain which "authority and rules" made no sense to her. If you did, could you point me the right direction. If not could you just enlighten me a little, please?

I think unfortunately your daughter is being tarred with your brush.

Heated · 21/02/2008 22:33

I really like my quirky, off-beat students who march to a different tune; they brighten my day with their different take on the world & often do so with great humour & charm. I don't get a sense of the latter with the OP and her dd, just resentment and glee at the trouble she thinks dd is stirring up.

It makes my day when a parent or child says thanks for all my hard work; but perhaps in the case of the OP, she and dd feel there is nothing at the school they are grateful for? If that is the case then college does indeed seem the place to be.

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