Generous offer from family to pay private school fees for my dc for secondary.
Only trouble is the eldest is in year 9 already. Has been offered the opportunity to move but doesn’t want to.
Other kids are year 6 and year 2.
For context the local state academy secondary is well regarded and gets good results but is huge (12 form entry)
Dc1 is doing ok and has a group of friends hence not wanting to move but there are things I haven’t been 100% happy with like multiple teachers for the same subjects, also that maybe she’s not getting pushed as much as she should (attitude to learning has slipped and so have marks in some things). But it has great facilities, great choice of subjects at gcse, great trips, easy journey (free bus end of the road) so a short day etc etc.
Dc2 is quiet, middle of the road academically I think. The private school we’re considering is small (50ish per year, 2 form entry).
I think it would be nice for her but not convinced it’s necessarily better in terms of preparing for the big wide world, grades etc, but have a feeling she’d be ‘protected’ there. It’s v nurturing etc etc
Youngest one, has not had a great start to primary thanks in part to covid and the local primary maybe having a tricky time with staff turnover etc.
I feel like if it wasn’t for dc1 being at state we might think private was better for the other two? But how much of a factor is it.
Any experiences of not doing the same for all kids? Is it going to cause issues?
Dc2 currently wants to follow in her sisters footsteps and go state with her friends but we haven’t looked at the private one yet and she would know a couple of people altho they’re not close friends
Any words of wisdom wise Mumsnetters?
Feel like if we do go private for other 2 and LOVE it then I’ll just feel really bad that dc1 missed out.