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anyone's dh go to boarding school?

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hamma · 11/06/2007 14:55

If so how is he different- I was talking to my dh over the weekend and telling him he didn't need to clear his plate , he wasn't still at boarding school and he said it had nothing to do with boarding school but just good manners . there is no food he doesn't like and I'm sure that's because he was always starving. he also always makes the bed in the morning as he's getting out of it practically. just wondered if anyone else got experience of this?

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FluffyMummy123 · 11/06/2007 14:56

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LucyJones · 11/06/2007 14:57

boarding schools don't starve you.
We had 4 meals a day and if anything ate more there than at home

Kewcumber · 11/06/2007 14:57

not Dh but ex - I can spot them a mile off (boarding school boys)

  • anally tidy
  • washed up saucepans before eating his dinner while dinner got cold
  • had to be trained into holding hands or kissing in public and then only under sufferance

ummm.... sure I can think of some more.

policywonk · 11/06/2007 14:58

Oh god yes about the food. My DP would eat cardboard if it was put in front of him. On the other hand, he takes no responsibility for cleaning up his own mess at all, because all that was done for him at school.

noddyholder · 11/06/2007 14:59

Mine went to military boarding school so doubly nuts!

Singapore · 11/06/2007 14:59

My dh was a boarder but is an untidy git until the mood takes him and then watch out!

Kewcumber · 11/06/2007 15:02

but his foibles could be put down to the military. Boarding school AND military was I MAD? What was I thinking.

jura · 11/06/2007 15:14

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motherinferior · 11/06/2007 15:15

DP is madly untidy, and has a life long prejudice against pastry as a result of boarding school.

But then his was a Quaker boarding school

nearlythere · 11/06/2007 15:19

wonder if the same effects happen with women- i would love to know what dh would say about me!
i clear my plate every time i eat, but thats nothing to do with going to boarding school- dh is a chef and cooks me divine food twice a day!
i am quite anal about mess and cleanliness though!

scatterbrain · 11/06/2007 15:21

My dh boarded - but sadly he has retained none of this "tidying up" stuff ! the only hangover we have is that he gobbles his food up far too fast to be polite - aparently if you didn't eat fast at his school the bigger boys would nick it off your plate !

I agree with the fact that he got too used to someone else tidying up after him etc !

And as for washing saucespans before use - mine can't even wash up after use - he is the worlds worst washer-upper -although I suspect is actually strategy to get out of being asked again etc.....

BeatrootandBenedick · 11/06/2007 15:22

Yes dh went at `13 -

My mum says the reason she always clears her plate is becasue of the wat - she was bloody 6 when it finished - her reason for being greedy!!

Kewcumber · 11/06/2007 15:26

oh yes my ex says the same about the fast eating

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hamma · 11/06/2007 15:28

the great thing is any traditonal food like steak pie and apple crumble my dh loves and I can't overcook vegetables because that's all he's used to. loved the comment about holding hands in public - we had to duck down in a jeweleers when we were getting engaged because someoen he was at school with was passing !!!! He was 28

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ahundredtimes · 11/06/2007 15:30

No, but I went and I'm useless.

In fact this thing about background was part of a discussion we had at w/end, a rather heated discussion. Whereby dh complained about EVERYTHING (including the fact that ds2 wanted to go to the park in his pjs) and I told him it was because he'd grown up scrubbing his face before going to church and his mother was and is utterly preoccupied by what everyone on the street thinks of her, whereas I was brought up by dozy upper class types who don't have any neighbours and don't give a shit what anyone thinks anyway.

We laughed in the end and decided they were both as bad as eachother.

FluffyMummy123 · 11/06/2007 15:30

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Slim · 11/06/2007 15:31

www.crappublicschools.org/

for reliving those days...

saffymum · 11/06/2007 15:31

mine was at boarding school from age 6. He is anally tidy and won't leave a thing lying around, his clothes are all on colour coded hangers!!!

He has a fear of peas (satan's fruit he calls them) he hasn't a clue how a family unit works and can't understand why families/siblings want to help each other with stuff and be around each other all the time. He thinks his friends from school are his family and isn't that interested in his family.

MellowMa · 11/06/2007 15:32

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ahundredtimes · 11/06/2007 15:32

My school was closed down eventually, for being so very very crap and druggy and mad. I was hungry, everyone else was an anoerexic.

policywonk · 11/06/2007 15:37

Agree Saffy about the effect on family life, at least in DP's case. He went to school at 7 and stayed until 18. As far as he's concerned, his family are annoying strangers with whom he happens to share genes. He is mystified by my close relationship with my parents.

However, his parents really are pretty annoying, so that could explain it.

MrsBadger · 11/06/2007 15:37

day prep school - serious food trauma re prunes, plate-clearing etc

boarding 13-16 - more food trauma - never fed enough, always sneaking into town for illicit pot noodles and sausage rolls, measl as cod describes. Rebelled once at university and is now food ponce and cooking junkie.

boarding 16-18 - extraordinarily poncey, lap of luxury, any food you wanted, special diets for the 1st XV, shirts returned from laundry cellophaned on hangers etc.
'No, no, not that polo field, the other polo field'.

Quattrocento · 11/06/2007 15:37

My DH does all of those things, hamma, and he didn't go to boarding school.

Oddly enough I did and I don't do any of them. If it weren't for my husband I think the house would be a complete mess.

So based on us - it's not boarding school - although I think 100 is probably right about parental influences (his being ferociously tidy, mine being totally unconcerned).

Quattrocento · 11/06/2007 15:44

Dartington Hall, 100?

ahundredtimes · 11/06/2007 15:47

ooh no, people that were EXPELLED from there, and Bedales and Steiner schools, came to my school.

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