TA slapped my son's hand...... What would you do ??

[moosh]

Ds is in Yr2, a bright young man who is excellent at reading, numeracy and good at literacy a lively sociable boy with great imagination.
He has had many little incidents with his TA over the last 2.5 yrs (shes been with his class since Reception), but not sure if I have shrugged this one off without reacting.
As parents, What would you do?

It was lunchtime the kids came in and got their plates. Now the TA usually gives the kids their cutlery, but they were waiting a while. Ds took it upon himself to go and get some knives and forks for him and his friends. As he put his hand in the drawer the TA saw him, came over picked his hand up and slapped him on it and told him to not get the cutlery and go and sit down.
My reaction to ds was that he broke the rules,he should of sat and waited for his cutlery, it is dangerous for him to get the knives and forks and that is why they have to wait for an adult to do it. I do not agree with her reaction, but it was probably a knee jerk reaction I told him that I would discuss it with dp when he got home.
We did and have decided that although ds looked annoyed by it when telling me, he wasn't really upset and crying so we have decided not go to the school on this incident, but dp is convinced that the Ta doesn't like our son, if a similar situation occured then I would not hesistate to go to the Head Teacher.

But now, not sure if our reaction is the right one. I am not one to go all guns blazing and argue with the teachers at the school, but I am no push over too and am wondering whether I should go to the school or not.

What do you think, if it was your child what would you do ?
Thanks

I wouldn't like it either.

Seriously? You would go 'nuclear' over a tap?

when i suggested it may have been a "tap" i didnt mean a "warning" tap. i was thinking more of the tap on a friends hand i sometimes do to get their attention to something. is it not at all possible that's what it was?

i also dont think that going in there guns blazing would be immediately helpful.

i always try to get as many facts as i can to back me up with things to do with kids/school as our school have a very good reputation, ahem, partly because they like to sweep things like bullying under the carpet. if i ran in there screaming like a banshee then no-one is going to listen (well ok they'd hear it im sure ).

better to put it forward reasonably with facts than to make myself look like a neurotic overprotective mother who they wont take seriously.

not that im saying moosh is, thats just our school and how i would deal with it.

Speak to the head, calmly, with the facts, explain that you feel she does not like your child and about the "tap". The school must have its own policy over what sort of physical contact is acceptable and will take it from there. Definately does not have to be a "nuclear" barage but i feel it needs to be adressed nonetheless.

im sure its nothing. he shouldnt have helped himself.