Anyone sacrifice to pay 1500 worth of school fees a month?

[hercules1]

Long story but if you pay this amount is it because you have it to spare or because you go without and work bloody hard?

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Xenia- work bloody hard

SAHMS- Feck of Xenia

I know her view already!

Okay I'll rephrase that - work hard at paid job doing long hours etc if job isnt paid in the 100,000s!

Ok I know you're all thinking this but won't say it, but how gutted would you be to work your arse off and live on second hand gruel for 12 years, if it turns out little Lucinda's thick anyway?

Should also add I welcome all experiences including of course Xenia but you earned masses and I want to hear from people who didnt as well.

Should also add I welcome all experiences including of course Xenia but you earned masses and I want to hear from people who didnt as well.

This would be for secondary so I know he's not thick

As I said tis a long story (anonminiy sp) qwhich I dont want to go into but something we are having to think about.

We don't pay this much we pay aroubd £2000 a term. But I realise that this is not a small amount of money and that many peopl cannot afford to do this. And FWIW I have been in the situation where I couldn't afford this in the past.

I'm a teacher, and so not very well paid. Dh is am RAF officer, so well paid but out joint income does not reach the £100,000 mark (or even close). However I realise that we are very fortunate and earn considerably more that the national average.

We don't have the money 'spare' as such. We could easily find homes for it, we could have new carpets, replace old furnature, take expensive holidays (we have always tended to go camping, not this year dh is too ill). We wear old clothes, never buy 'designer', seldom go out, but this is our choice. We drive Ford cars, nothing flashy.

That said, we are not going 'short' to send them. I have been in the position of having no money in the past, and recognise the difference.

Even sending the children to private school we live a comfortable life. If we didn't pay for school we could afford other luxuries.

We do work hard. But so do a great many people , who are not lucky enough to be paid as well as we are.

Thankyou MB.

The cost would be for a primary and secondary together.

Oh and without taking into account any possible reduction for teh secondary.

I sell my body to pay for my children's public school tutition. I consider it a sacrifice well worth making. Education, education, education (blow jobs, blow jobs and the odd hand job).

Ours are in promary atm, but our plan is to leave them there for secondary.

Much of the finacial planning that we have had to do regarding dh's illness has regarded continuing to pay for the school fees after his death.

the children will have enough to deal with , without coping with a change of school, and loss of school friends.

Fortunately we feel that it will be possible for me to continue to fund them, but it will rather more difficult, but not imposible to do so.

We will send to DS to the best school for him and will work/earn extra to send him (and any future LOs) if neccessary. ATM looking like a few thousand pounds per year.

Is that any help ?

Thanks MB. I am certainly not in your situation but if the worse did ever happen we both have good life policies for the mortgage and work.

Yse it is. I suppose my fear is will we be the only ones who will struggle each month and whose kids wont get to go on trips etc with school. We have a year and a half before it happens so dh has time to get promotion which is pretty likely and I can increase my hours.

Thankfully we have a 'Death in Service' benefit, which I will invest to pay the children's tuition (inc university) . At 25 they will inherit the capital sum.

We also have the rather generous forces pension.

Finincially I have little to worry about.

It is all the rest that is rather ghastly.

Ah well, could be worse. I could be left financially fucked as well.

Thanks for the posts, MB. I appreciate it

We're moving our children from state school to one that will cost just under £2000 per term per child. Our main justification is that at the moment we spend about £1100 per month on a part-time nanny, so we won't notice the difference once it's spent on school fees and holiday childcare instead.
We will be in much the same financial state as MB - we don't do designer clothes, holidays abroad etc..but then don't really find the desire to. Would rather have the kids in a supportive school, go camping and wear M and S...but we will still afford to pay all the bills on time etc so not a real hardship. Oh and we both work, dh long hours, me not so long

can the go for a scholorship? Or a bursary?

Hercules, MB's description of how families on joint incomes of well under £100k manage to fund independent education is fairly representative IME. It applies to us and to several of the families in ds' class at school.
It is very cheering to visit other houses with worn carpets and see old bangers parked outside
We know we are lucky to have sufficient funding to just about manage it, believe me, but we do have to live pretty frugally to make it work. As MB says, we have to be resourceful re clothes, holidays, furniture etc. HTH

We already go camping! We have quite a lot of debt in teh form of student loans and credit cards of which we've not made a huge effort as we havent had a real reason before to tighten our belts too much and our outgoings can be quite high so there is room to cut back a lot.

Eventually we will get a large inheritance.

I will try for a scholarship of some sort but am planning it on the full figure as we were told all fees are only paid if income is less than 46k and we earn a fair bit over this.

It cheers me to see old cars pull up to the schools we're thinking of. THe primary is one of the cheaper ones but good whilst the secondary is 12 grand.