If you went to private school, do you feel you should do the same for DC?

[LauraMipsum]

DD is only a toddler so we've got a couple of years, but weighing up private v state education. Private would be lovely, great facilities etc, but would mean both parents working in high pressure jobs and would rule out another child. State schools near us aren't great and moving is out of the question.

I went to private school and I wonder how much of my inclination to go private is a fear that I'd be doing "less" for DD than I got myself. So as not to be accused of drip feeding, private school took me from school-refuser to academically successful, I was diagnosed with ASD as an adult. I also wonder if my ASD has got me into a rigid "this is what's happening" state of mind which I'll later regret when I'm looking at 14 years of school fees.

I don't know much about the state system other than it totally failed for me. Has it changed all that much since the 80s? I feel like I'd be doing my DD a disservice not to try to give her what I had, but equally, 93% of kids go to state school, it's not like I'm condemning her to the coal-mines.

I don't want a state v private bunfight (there's enough of that on the grammar threads) but any insight /experiences would be gratefully received.

I loved my private girls secondary. It really suited me and my character, and allowed me to follow my interests freely without thinking about gender. I work in an almost entirely male environment - and to answer those who say that single sex schools don't reflect real life, I'd say that not having gender roles forced on me in those difficult teen years has meant I don't care what gender my colleagues are. I mean, people are people - right? . I am certain that I want a private, single sex secondary education for my daughter.

Primary is less clear.

I was very happy my first state primary (in a naice leafy area) but then we moved and I had a really bad time at the very 'local' village primary I went to next. I was bullied by both pupils and teachers for having the wrong accent (neither of my parents is from the area and one is non-British) and for being different and a bit too clever. Of course I moved on from that (when I went to my lovely secondary) but I can see that it had a permanent negative impact on my outlook and personality. This makes me want to send DD to private primary too, to spare her what I went through. I do think a nice state primary within walking distance is the very best option for primary though.