Am I over reacting?

[Badvoc]

Hi
Just wanted to ask other parents/teachers their opinion on this...
My ds2 is 5 and started school in sept last year.
In feb he started feeling unwell at school - refused any lunch, wasn't drinking and stayed in the classroom at lunchtime play
The teacher did not phone me and told me all the above at 3.15 at pick up time.
I do not think this is acceptable.
I complained to the ht and the ct phoned me and basically said "I am very experienced and used my judgment"
No apology.
Since then ds2 has been very reluctant to go to school - in fact at feb half term it was a struggle just to get him to leave the house
He has had a lot of health issues too - in the past month he had had; an ear infection, conjunctivitis, tonsillitis and a cough and cold.
My gut feeling is that I don't trust this teacher any longer and I don't think ds2 does either.
So....wwyd?

[Badvoc]

Hi
Sorry I am not familiar with udos ?

[stleger]

Udos is a probiotic range. Our local university is doing a lot of work in probiotics. It is a big favourite of health food shop people. (So check prices in Holland and Barretts!) allegedly it also helps with appetite issues, my dd2 had lost weight as she had throat problems and couldn't swallow easily.
I hope the GP trip goes well and this term is easier.

[stleger]

There are a few mumsnet discussions on it if you put it into search.

[Badvoc]

Thank you

[Badvoc]

Hi
Just thought I would update as I had some really helpful posts -
Spoke to the gp this morning - his results are ok which is a huge relief.
I explained what's been happening and she suggested getting the school nurse involved.
I must admit this had never occurred to me (or the school evidently!)
Phoned and spoke to someone (not the nurse for my sons school) but she was very helpful.
She will contact the school and phone me next week.
I am rather embarrassed to admit I cried on the phone
Anyway...
I feel now that at least I am doing something iyswim?
Was talking about school with him earlier and he was fine til I mentioned lunch...would coming home for lunch help him for a while do you think?
(He seems to associate lunchtime at school with when he felt very poorly in feb?)
I will do whatever it takes to get my happy little bit back
Also, should I pop all this in an e mail to school? Don't want to speak to teacher on Monday as don't want ds to hear and she will be busy 1st day back...

[FavadiCacao]

I'm glad to hear you are getting somewhere! We are all a bit guilty to sometimes fail to see the wood for the forest!

Aw! It's only natural to cry when you feel relief after stressful situations and you have been through the mill in recent months.

I don't see any need to speak to the teacher or school until you have spoken to the nurse. If things are a bit strained between you and the teacher, she might take the information as an attack- I know you're not. I would let the nurse (a co-worker) talk to the teacher and school.

[EustaciaVye]

Glad to see you have taken some steps forward

Wait and see what the nurse says before you pull him from lunch...It may cause other problems as this can be quite a social time for the little ones.

[HumphreyCobbler]

Hello Badvoc, I feel guilty now as I agreed with most at the start of the thread that I couldn;t see the need for the teacher to apologise for the actions on that day but I really meant to come back and say that I thought her tough love approach to his obvious problem was wholly inadequate. He does have the right to a more understanding approach to the situation and I hope the school nurse will help that.

[ThreeLannistersOneTargaryen]

Thank you for coming back to update. I'm glad your son's test results came back normal and that you have been able to talk to someone about your son's current difficulties.

I think an email would be a good idea.

[stealthsquiggle]

Badvoc - now that you know that it is lunch that is the issue, can you start from there and see if DS2 can articulate whatit is about lunch or lunchtime? The more you can pin it down the better a chance you have of dealing with it . Is it eating, or the process that surrounds it, or play time or....?

[Badvoc]

I will e mail the teacher later - have also contacted a centre that helps bereaved kids but they have no appts til June