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has anyone turned down a massive discount >=50% to private school?? why?

157 replies

tidybooks · 25/10/2012 14:45

We have been offerred half price prep school for our sons, (discount is related to my FIL's profession).

Obviously we would still have to pay quite a lot but it is much more affordable with the discount and we could just able manage it.

Wouldn't have considered private before secondary otherwise.

Not sure what to do, feel that perhaps it is too good to turn down, but then it's still a lot of money.

OP posts:
Xenia · 27/10/2012 10:39

Yes, I am certainly not someone to go on about social stature. My great grandfather was a miner and anyone who knows me can see me on youtube.

However we do make decisions about others in interviews and elsewhere based on how they look. Sometimes it's nice to con people into thinking you are different from how you areb y what you choose to wear. It's just a fun game really. I certainly though don't like the use of the word kids for children. Most people do though call their grown up children their children. Mine including the 3 who have graduated will always be my children as the word just means those who came from you.

The bigger discrimation for people in many jobs is not that they are female or black but their social class in the UK so all they need to do is elocution lessons and change how they talk and what they say and what they wear and hey presto jobs otherwise denied to them can become open to them. It's why a lot of graduate emlployers these days if you get through the online tests nad have enough UCAS points then want to speak to you on the telephone.

lljkk · 27/10/2012 10:48

You never say that you chose your career, Xenia on the basis of:

It will make me rich to have nice things for myself
I love it
It suits my identity
I am good at it
I had the opportunity
I didn't know what else to do
I was encouraged by family & friends
I couldn't pursue my first choice career, but this came up instead & seemed pretty good...

Which is how most people get into their job choices. It's always about politics with you. Which seems to be why you presume that the only alternative is to be a cute appendage on some man's arm. How do Lesbian underachievers fit into this black-n-white view, btw?

Xenia · 27/10/2012 10:54

I don't know what the first point is? I picked work I thought I would enjoy and I hope to do it until I am 80. I am sure I will enjoy the next 30 years of it as much as the first and perhaps even more so as family responsibilities tend to lesson as we get older.
I did though get a book from the library when I was about 14 on what people earn because I wanted to be able to buy a desert island and I did a graph of what I would have to save to buy it based on various careers. (I assumed you keep 100% of your earnings, spend nothing and pay no tax! on the graph)

There is a politics issue about female careers yes and the need to ensure women do better and get more money and power and own not 1% of the world's wealth but a heap more of it. We are doing really well at present and must press that advantage home. Ecah woman going part time and off a career track is a stab in the heart for the rest of us.

MordionAgenos · 27/10/2012 10:55

Well, clearly you are, since you did.

rabbitstew · 27/10/2012 11:36

Xenia - most of the women GPs I know have husbands who are also GPs and who also work part time. Their idea of women's lib appears to be that everyone should end up working part time. Personally, I don't think that's so great for their patients, but hey ho, you can't say it's about women demeaning themselves for men's gain, it's more about women, in your view, asking men to demean themselves a bit, too.

rabbitstew · 27/10/2012 11:37

And stop going on about your own heart, Xenia - I thought you were in agreement that it is normal and natural to prioritise your own family, not other women you don't even know.

Yellowtip · 27/10/2012 14:01

Did your own mother work outside the home Xenia?

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 20:37

You must all remeber with Xenia,that if she did it, it is right.
So,Xenia married down,so it is wrong to marry up.
Xenia works hard,so that is right,so housewives are wrong.
Xenia went back to work 2 weeks after babies,so that is right for everyone else too.
geddit!

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 20:38

Its simple,once you know the formula.

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 20:39

if i want to know what xenia thinks ill read her.not your value laden summary
do you paraphrase everyone or just that particular poster?
how curious to get into a she thinks this.she thinks that position

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 20:47

I wasnt really talking to you sm.
I think you have been on mn long enough to have made up your mind about her by now.

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 21:09

on contrary i make my mind up based on thread.
i dont carry a preference or otherwise about any poster
i dont hold sway by someone else executive summary of any poster.too value laden

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:32

you make your mind up based on a thread
wow!
you dont carry a preference or otherwise about any poster
wow again.

no idea what this value laden stuff means

I think I have read somewhere else on MN that you dont love anyone on MN

I dont think you have a memory problem.
perhaps you do.
but I do notice that you will pick up words from some posters and use them elsewhere sometimes,so I think your memory is ok.

this all means if I am horrid to you on here tonight
and on a thread tomorrow, I am nice to you
that on tomorrows thread I will still be thought of as nice !

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 21:34

i dont think of you
today or tomorrow
simple as that

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:36

!!!
What about Xenia or anyone else on MN?

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:38

What about in rl?
have you got about 10 people you think about in rl?

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 21:39

i fail to understand your consternation
the joy of mn is indeed can vociferously disagree one thread,concur on another
so in answer to your question it is possible we disagree here,agree elsewhere

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:45

it is the not thinking of anyone and not loving anyone that causes me consternation,if that is the right word.
It reminds me of a robot.

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 21:46

aye,robot

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:50

thank you for answering my questions.

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 21:53

lol,it was a pun not a searing insight
but i see you read what you wanted into it
thats the danger of assumption,it takes you to a predetermined point

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:57

Now wondering if you love 10 people.
It might be only 4.

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 21:58

The rest of the world might be just for your amusement.

scottishmummy · 28/10/2012 22:03

you seem disproportionately annoyed,and keen to fit my answers to your schema
why is that
what is the significance of my mn usage to you

amillionyears · 28/10/2012 22:16

I am not annoyed in the slightest.
In your case,I think you have love to give people locked up inside you.
And you have a fear of showing your true emotions in case you get judged.