I live in Brighton where people also do this. My DS is in reception year at an outstanding primary school. We moved tto a flat that we intended to buy but this was situated around the corner from the school. Obviously, we wanted our son to go to a good school - why wouldn't we? We had sold our flat and rented a flat near the school, with the intention of buying but a complication arose because the lease needed extending and this was going to cost a lot more than we were originally told. The flat had very bad damp problems and I had just had a baby so we decided not to buy it after all. Our DS got a place at the school and we moved out of the catchment. We moved to another 2 bedroom flat without damp. We are hardly living the life of Riley!
We live in an area now where the nearest school is Catholic, the next 2 nearest schools are outstanding. One is considered better than the school my DS attends but we can't move him as there are no places at the schools. My partner is Jewish so we would never consider a religious school.
I know a few people from DS's nursery that didn't get places at DS's school, that missed out by a few yards but they are all well off, well established in their jobs, old enough to have bought property ie family houses when they were affordable- to some extent pure fluke due to age, say having 8 to 10 years on myself and DP. Are good schools only the preserve of those rich in capital then? As clearly, if we move DS from this school someone will get a place that fits this category.
My brother lives in North London, they have just bought a house that is very nice but very similar to rows and rows of them for 1.3 million. They held on to their DS's place at the local oversubscribed school until they were certain their DS had a place at a private school. Given the cost of living in this area, the social equality argument that some are getting on their moral high horse about is farcical!
It is always a subject people seem to get very morally superior about but you often find they are making their point safe in the knowledge that their children attend the local school 'obviously', the owner occupied 4 bedroom house around the block from the school helped as did the christianing at birth to make the local CofE school a valid option!y DP's boss about 14 years older than myself was expressing similar moral outrage regarding the reception year mum's at her DS's school as being too religious, frequenting church too much, all to help in getting 'a place'. I had to wander about her motivation for sending her own children there as it wasn't their nearest school, they didn't strike me as particularly 'Christian'. I assumed it was because she wanted what she thought was best for her DC at the time of application, pretty much like the mum's she was criticising for doing the same thing!
Whoever said it was just about parental support at home- ha,ha, ha! I went to a very deprived secondary school for the first 2 years. It was fucking awful. My parents are both intelligent, one was a teacher, at the time my Dad was an Economist. The problem was not my work, it was in top group for everything but I had absolutely no friends, was socially excluded, bullied and taunted until moved schools. I had been to a private primary school and then went to a school where I was the only child to play an instrument in the whole school! It was a disaster and there is no way I would inflict that on my own child!