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Can't go to see dd in her school play. :-(

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Kelly1978 · 08/12/2005 16:10

DD has landed the part of the angel gabriel in her school play but they won't allow me to take the pushchair in. I can't manage to hold the twins on my lap for that length of time and watch ds too, and they won't make an exception. Poor dd asked if I might watch her from the window!

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Feistybird · 08/12/2005 16:15

what a stupid bloody rule. Kelly I'd have the twins for you if I knew you in rl.

That's unbelievably unfair.

stleger · 08/12/2005 16:16

Are they mad? Get a petition going, I'll sign!

KBearthePolarBear · 08/12/2005 16:18

same rule at our school - health and safety or summink. Can you ask someone a rellie or friend to have them for an hour while you go? Or another mum to hold one on her lap?

MIstletAOU · 08/12/2005 16:18

that's a bit off! Could you get someone else to come with you and hold the other twin?

Times like this I am sooo glad my kids are in a tiny school, some places seem to go OTT on rules and regs and people always seem to lose out

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Kelly1978 · 08/12/2005 16:24

I've only been here a month, and don't know any of the other mums or anyone else in the area yet. Dd's school isn't tiny but it only has an intake of 70, about half the size of her old school. They managed to allow pushchairs in. The teacher said if they allowed one then everyone else would want to bring theirs in, but not a single other mother there has baby twins!

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Feistybird · 08/12/2005 16:27

I would go in clearly struggling with the twins - there's bound to be a nice caring mum who will take one for you - I'd do it.

collision · 08/12/2005 16:29

I agree with Feisty. you MUST go and someone will help you.

Ridiculous rule. Hand one of the twins to the headmaster. That will shut him up.

Grrrrrrrrrrr

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Kelly1978 · 08/12/2005 16:32

I was very tempted to do that, but its a bit of a risk to take tho isn't it? if nobody helps and I can't manage them, I would have to leave and dissapoint dd even more. The other thing I was tempted to do is book three seats and give two of them to my babies.

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Bozza · 08/12/2005 16:36

Yes do that Kelly. Then get hold of those booster seats that fasten onto the chairs and fasten them into those.

I would complain again - can you approach someone else at the school? Is there no way of getting a babysitter? Could you take the pushchair in and stand at the back?

KBearthePolarBear · 08/12/2005 16:37

I would definitely speak the Head, ask for special arrangements to be made for you to put your pram in the corner out of the way of fire exits etc and explain the detrimental effect this will have on your child if you can't see her perform. And for some common sense to prevail! Good luck

stleger · 08/12/2005 16:43

The crazy thing is if anyone ever asks me to help at school - eg to take an extra child home and get it ready for a party - I'll do it happily. But I hate asking for anything myself! I'm sure there is a solution.

LIZS · 08/12/2005 17:05

Is it possible to ask the school secretary if there be any mums in a similar position in another year group who would baby sit in return for you covering their little ones for their child's play.

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Kelly1978 · 08/12/2005 17:08

the whole school are doing the paly. They have done two performances, one for parents with small children, one for those without. So that means that jsut about everyone there is going to have their hands full as it is. I will try again tomorrow though, I really want to go. DD struggled with learning the songs last year, so I was so proud that she got a role this year.

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serenitysaysHoHoHo · 08/12/2005 17:10

When is it? Depending on when and what time, I wouldn't have a problem watching them for an hour or so - I'm just up the road from you iirc.

GoldFrankincenseandMerlin · 08/12/2005 17:12

Kelly - that's unbelievable! I would definitely take it up with the Head.

Am v lucky at DS1's school - they have organised a creche for the reception parents with other little ones.

MascaraOHara · 08/12/2005 17:12

That's rubbish Kelly - hope you get something sorted. If I were you I'd just go, waltz in with buggy and if anyone says anything then just take them out of the buggy - am sure someone will offer to help. I bet with 3 kids they won't dare ask you to move the buggy!

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Kelly1978 · 08/12/2005 17:13

thanks for the offer serenity, its very kind, but I'm in ascot now. I moved here a month ago.

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serenitysaysHoHoHo · 08/12/2005 17:13

Ooops missed that, yes just a little bit far, sorry!

MascaraOHara · 08/12/2005 17:14

You could by 3 tickets.. ask for them on the end of a row - then remove 2 of the chairs to the corner of the room and park the buggy where the chairs would have been?!?

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JingleShells · 08/12/2005 17:15

and for you Kelly.

Ds's school won't let pre-school kids in at all for the xmas play, they reckon they 'distract' the 'actors', pah it's a kids nativity ffs, so so mad about it.

puff · 08/12/2005 17:22

How crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is there any kind of PTA/parents committee?

Perhaps you could find out who runs it and see if they can rally round to help.

Ask the school if they can put a note out for you asking for someone to take one of your twins on their lap during the performance - it can only be 20 mins or so.

I do think in your case they should be doing their best to help you.

PeachyPlumFairy · 08/12/2005 18:07

I'd ask the PTA. Goodness, I'd LOVE the chance for a nice baby cuddle! I'd consider myself very priveledged indeed.

Actually, ds's last school had this rule and I had to scrabble round for cover for other two, ended up paying childminder extra. this school doesn't care less tho, why is that? DH missed DS1's assembly at the end of last term as we assumed we couldn't take ds3, when it wasn't an issue at all. Damn.

joanna4 · 08/12/2005 18:24

Does your reception teacher know of a mum who would do it we know all our mums really well and if we had to ask a few names come straight to mind failing that could you take a friend/relative and give her one baby to hold onto.

robbinxmaspud · 08/12/2005 21:17

So sad for you Kelly. I know that fire officers have been patrolling schools around us and making the fire limits for their halls really cast iron and obviously scaring some schools into making fierce rules.
I am sure that another mum would take one on her knee; failing that weeping always works for my friend in these situations. Most constructively I would talk to the head and explain how upsetting for your dd it is and ask her if she can suggest a solution. We ask parents with wrigglers to take them out to a spare classroom if it gets too much and they are competing with the speakers. Sometimes we use a TA to run a creche for littlies in another room. Good luck.

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