took my kids out 3 weeks b4 they left becoz bullying by teacher in year 6 private school - reports to secondary school

[tanyaturner]

took the very sad - difficult for everyone - decision to take my twins out of their prep school this week. been there 8 years and only 3 weeks to go i had been gritting my teeth and hoping all the fun stuff after SATs would make up for a year from hell. should have realised that my son would yet again be excluded from all the fun stuff & not allowed to shine etc. just hugely relieved to be out of the hell hole but worried about the reports the school sends to the secondary school and what rights we have? do i need legal advice? help please xxx

You need to explain more about the situation for anyone to be able to give you advice.

What are you worried about the secondary school knowing and what rights are you worried about? What has your son been excluded from and why?

You said private school in the title.

Why would they be sending a report to the secondary school now? Surely that would have been done in the normal application round for secondaries?

been there, got the T shirt - took my boy out of prep and sent him to a state school for very much the same reasons - the State school won't give a hoot about the private school, indeed they will probably be rubbing their hands with glee that you've chosen a state school over the prep school - now what happened to me, is because I was in receipt of a bursary, and I wouldn't suck up to the headmaster like other parents, (indeed we had cross-words and letters exchanged a number of times), they began (two teachers) to pick on my son - he went from being a Grade A to suddenly acquiring a multitude of Grade C's - all bullshit - I "knew" they would also be giving him a bad report but I fixed that with a little help from my computer and changed his Grades back again!! I then gave the State school (to negate the need to ask the school) his "proper" school report! Even if the prep school DOES give a bad report the State school can't do anything about it - you just make sure you call the State school head and explain what an awful time you've had with the prep school that it made you have to remove your chid(ren). Good luck.

prep schools really hate a parent who challenges them - they think you should just be grateful you're there.... and where do they get these bloody Headmasters from?

thats exactly what I did! - you get that tippex out - no one will know!
What you might consider also is asking for a meeting with the Headmaster/mistress and take someone along with you, state your case and say that you're really not happy - ultimately, ensure you take full control of the situation - say that if we can't resolve the issue that you may seek legal advice - they will utterly shit themselves, trust me - prep schools all love themselves and bad press sticks! There are actually specialist litigation educational lawyers if you really need to take action, but boy are they expensive!

We took DD1 (now 13,yr9) out of selective private at the end of yr6, to start at state comp for yr7.
One of the reasons was bullying by some the teachers.
Strangely, once the notice was given in, all the staff started being extra nice to her. Almost as if they had never meant to push her over the edge.

Her final report was one of the best she had in most subjects. But there were a few nasty undertones that I feel would not have been there had she been staying at the school.

I don't know if the report ever got to her secondary school. But I do know thet her SATS results did not. As a result, she never had any FFT levels, And no end of KS3 targets until the start of yr9. Whenever she has questioned the current school on this, they have always said there was no information from her previous school, as she was the only one to have come from her previous school.

Looking back now, approaching the end of year 9, I think the lack of info was a good thing as it gave her a fresh start.

If you are going for a selective secondary school. then the reports may be important. But surely that would have been at the start of the application process, so would have been end of year 5.

yes, circular, I believe you are right - however, a state school cannot be seen to be selective and for the most part, they are not. They are simply not allowed to be. So, you were spared the tippex!!!

verity the brave, you have it all sussed!!! one of the reasons they wanted to keep your child on could have been, a) she's talented?, ballet, piano - bringing cudos to the school or b) they "need" the fees! c) they're afraid of what you might do - you sound like you'd do something, if pushed - just like me - your child is NEVER lying, if they can't articulate, just take it they are trying to tell you something you should not ignore..... I got so pissed off with Sherborne Prep in Dorset that I actually spyed on the school and when i found out what was going on, I so did march in and take my child out, lost my job and everything, but I didn't care, I did the right thing.

My child is at now attending, well from September, one of the top schools in the country..... God, I'm chuffed and I'm so pleased I stuck to my guns.