Do you send your kids to school on their birthdays?

[charliecat]

My dds have the same birthday and this year I am planning on keeping them off so they can enjoy their birthday.
The alternative is sending them, them not having 5 mins to open their pressies let alone play with them and then with a heavy heart sending them off crying. Not for me.
If they got up at 5am and had chance to play I wouldnt mind but we barely have time for anything in the morning as it is so it would be chaotic...anyway...how much trouble am I going to get in for this? Do I lie and say they both had tummy bugs or what? What do you do?

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I will ask

but actually am rapidly going off the idea

cod, i did tell the truth. The answer was no. ds friend told the truth, he was off to spain for 2 weeks, the answer was yes...why?

I jus don't have the time not to teach in lessons, I am amazed that other teachers do this sort of thing.

The only time I don't activly teach a time tabled lesson is on the last day of term, when in general children are too off the wall to work with....then they get to watch a film I have on paracites! Even on that day I do teach year 10 as I don't have spare lessons and they need the lesson's work for their GCSE

CharlieCat- I can sympathise with you re the birthday thing as my birthday is in the holidays so I also thought myself lucky and felt sad that kids would have to go to school. But the thing is as others have said they accept it as the norm. I think the excitement of knowing that wonderful things are going to happen when you get home is great and they really do get a fuss made of them- stickers songs etc. I always send in a little cake with the initials of each child iced on the top and they love giving them out. Then we have a lovely time once they get home.
Is this more to do with what you want or what they want....

I think you might be making a rod for your own back if you start bigging up birthdays so early. By the time they're fifteen, they'll be expecting daytrips to Paris, as birthdays are so important.

I have a friend who goes into an immense strop if people don't remember her birthday. She spends the two months before it working herself up into a frenzy of excitement about it, and then it's invariably an anti-climax when it happens, becuase nothing can live up to her expectations! I suspect she's a victim of over-emphatic birthday parents.

Sorry, another vote against. It just wouldn't occur to me that DS would have a nicer time at home with me, than with all his friends and his teacher being lovely to him and making him feel special, then coming home to be made special again. I think he'd be horrified at the thought of missing out on the whole class singing Happy Birthday to him.

But there haven't been any real reasons for having the birtthday at home...

playinf with toys seems a pretty weak answer to me, they aren't going anywhere or seeing anything or anyone just not going to school

if it can be justified write and ask the head for permission with the argument for doing it

that's what you have to do if it's a holiday

LMAO at 'I suspect she's a victim of over-emphatic birthday parents. ' Another thing we can do to f*ck up our kids!

Yep! There's always something new we can do wrong!

Birthdays are very important in our house, and we have loads of little traditions and rituals ... but I wouldn't dream of taking them out of school for the day - even when they were very little.

There are other ways of making the day special.

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On a fish that must be a sight to see

Go on them.......

Both my dd always go to school on their birthdays - the only time they miss is when they are ill.
My husband is a secondary school teacher and one child in his form did not turn up for 2 GCSE exams - one because it was the day of his birthday and one on the following day ebcause 'he was too wrecked to come in'. As kids do, he boasted about this. It was not an isolated incident and the school refused to have him back for A Levels.

Ah Enid, that explains it!

I always sent my ds to nursery on his bday and will continue to now he has started school...except on a weekend of course

My dd's havent started school yet, but depending on how they get on at school I would consider taking them out of school for their birthday if its something that they want. I would also take them out of school for holidays if necessary. Quite possibly for holidays as their grandparents live in Australia and it would be hard work to take 2 children to Oz for a 2 week holiday and I dont want to do it in the Australian winter. However, this would stop when they get to secondary school as I think they cover more stuff which would be harder to catch up. But if I do this I would speak to the teacher and ask for work for them to do whilist we are away, or if they can do a project based on the holiday etc.

I would totally support the school in any way I can and my daughters education. But I really resent anything that comes in the way of very precious family time.

I can only imagine that your children have a much better time of it at school than my son does, who most of the time has the other 'PERFECT LITTLE DARLINGS'giving him a hard time of it.
And no KS the school does not own him and that's probably a good thing as they aren't doing a very good job of things. BADHAIR in future you should perhaps realise that for some children the schoolday is an endurance and not a pleasurable experience not all children are lucky enough to have lots of friends.
At the end of the day perhaps some of us enjoy having our children at home,especially on their birthday, and i will not make apologies or excuses for that.

No way, they go to school unless at deaths door, we always have a birthday tea after school at grannies and a bit of a do at the weekend. They finish around 3pm FGS how long does it take to open presents. A special outing can be at the weekend

How old is your son bikermum? Have you considered moving schools or homeschooling if he's so miserable?

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Out of my hands lol...

nobody wants to send their child to school to be miserable what ever day of the year it is, make it a priority to change that situation as it is way more important than a birthday in or out of school

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