Social Education - My DD is too advantaged/resents the poor - please help change this!

[Willmaa]

Hi all,

I my DD is wonderfully intelligent and popular with everybody in her school, Wycombe Abbey which costs just shy of £10,000 a year (we chose this school as we didn't want her to be badly influenced in a state comprehensive as she didn't quite pass her 11+)

However, as of late I have found her becoming more and more prejudice towards the poor, and less intelligent, saying for example 'just ignore them - don't pay benefits to them' or 'poor people have no dignity - look at their Primark clothes' or things to similar effect.

As a Mum from a relatively disadvantaged background who is and always has been a Social Democrat and Labour supporter, I think that enough is enough and that and I want to educate her and show that many poorer people do not choose to be that way and are more of victims or circumstances.

Can anybody please suggest a way to educate my DD about people who are not from a select very advantaged family? Maybe volunteering or activities with them etc?

Thanks

Got to be!

Hi themildmanneredjanitor

It is not - I would not like my DD to grow up as a snob, so she needs to learn.

That said reading my first paragraph I think I phrased the bit about the comprehensive school poorly, so apologies for that

Maybe you should put her into CRessex. That'll learn 'er.

If she's too thick to pass the 11 plus, she wouldn't have gone to a Wycombe comp anyway, she would have gone to a High School.

(sorry but this op has really pissed me off)

So you want to teach her that anyone who cannot afford a £10,000 school and buys clothes from primark is a victim of circumstance and is not in that position through any fault of their own??

Hmm, I am guessing pisstake too but if not perhaps education, as well as charity, should start close to home?

Hi Mumblechum,

My DD is happy at her school so I wouldn't want to change it, however if there are Youth activities there that you know of, this is the sort of thing I am looking for!

I would like her to mix more with other children, not just wealthy girls. This way she will hopefully appreciate everybody regardless.

Regards

this is a pisstake

A child does not develop those attitudes unless they are being reinforced at home.

And in the unlikely event it is real please don't take her volunteering until you sort those revolting attitudes out.

But I suspect this is an attempt to smear the school who have just been mentioned in the press for getting highest GCSE results

lol at 'hich costs just shy of £10,000 a year (we chose this school as we didn't want her to be badly influenced in a state comprehensive as she didn't quite pass her 11+)'

do you think she may be absorbing some of your opinions??

Hi BellasFormerFriend

'So you want to teach her that anyone who cannot afford a £10,000 school and buys clothes from primark is a victim of circumstance and is not in that position through any fault of their own??'

Again, sorry if my post read this way - this was not what I meant to say. I meant that I need her to recognise that she is in a VERY privileged situation and that others who are not, are not any worse or any better than her.

Equally, she must knows that people who ARE much poorer, and perhaps on benefits are NOT bad people, and do NOT choose to be like this, but rather are sometimes victims of cirsumstances.

Apologies again.

Oh FFS .
My dd is at an expensive private school and she learns about respecting people FROM US!
And 'wealthy children' are not vile poor hating wankers so your DD is not learning these attitudes because she is mixing with wealthy people.

If your DD really is at that school and has those attitudes you should sit down as a family and figure out how you have managed to fuck up so badly.
Perhaps your 'mistaken' sneery comments about state school hold a clue

Hi pagwatch

My DD boards at the school, so I suspect that these views are being enforced there...

And equally, pagwatch, please do not criticize how I bring up my child using such foul language

Then seriously I would think about pulling her. And I would be talking to the school aboutthis.
And having a DS2 who attends projects that require volunteers , please do not let her volunteer.
Volunteers should be people who have some empathy and wish to help. Not so that entitled children can peer at them to understand a bit better that which should be pretty obvious.

How can she be boarding for £10k per annum?

Anyway, it's £10,000 a term not £10,000 a year if she's boarding. Any youth activities she does will have to be during the holidays, won't they? You've left it a bit late since she's presumably just gone back to school.

If your DD sneers at poor people that is behaviour worthy of criticism.
If I use fuck on an open forum that is my choice. If you don't like it that is entirely your problem

I wouldn't want my poor teenagers to mix with people like your dd ...so don't send her round here to do her charity work please

Yes, singersgirl - it is £9,100 per term not year.

ahh - thank you TMMJ

I have a great idea, sort out your own views on the whole thing (ie learn some humility and get rid of the weird attitude and views) then take your child out of boarding school and parent her yourself instead of paying someone else to do it (badly).

Honestly though, if she is learning views you do not agree with and is turning into a child you do not like then she is in the wrong school. You are responsible for that, not her, you need to sort it out.

@usualsuspect

I wouldn't want my poor teenagers to mix with people like your dd ...so don't send her round here to do her charity work please

I have been a supporter of the Labour party for just over 30 years, now and I have NEVER once resented ANYBODY for being either richer or poorer. As I mentioned, I used to be from a much 'poorer' background and I have been fortunate enough to now live in a very comfortable way.

The point of my thread was to ask how I could change my DD's views for the better.