Social Education - My DD is too advantaged/resents the poor - please help change this!

[Willmaa]

Hi all,

I my DD is wonderfully intelligent and popular with everybody in her school, Wycombe Abbey which costs just shy of £10,000 a year (we chose this school as we didn't want her to be badly influenced in a state comprehensive as she didn't quite pass her 11+)

However, as of late I have found her becoming more and more prejudice towards the poor, and less intelligent, saying for example 'just ignore them - don't pay benefits to them' or 'poor people have no dignity - look at their Primark clothes' or things to similar effect.

As a Mum from a relatively disadvantaged background who is and always has been a Social Democrat and Labour supporter, I think that enough is enough and that and I want to educate her and show that many poorer people do not choose to be that way and are more of victims or circumstances.

Can anybody please suggest a way to educate my DD about people who are not from a select very advantaged family? Maybe volunteering or activities with them etc?

Thanks

HAHAHAHAHA... Well darling, If I was you my most pressing concern would be teaching your daughter not to express these opinions too freely. As they do whiff a bit of "new money" so, it may disadvantage her in your chosen social circle.

thanks tmmj!

Is this the same daughter who didn't get all A*s in her mocks and failed to get the party of Sandy in the school play??

Surely you could make a little more effort?

If I was you my most pressing concern would be teaching your daughter not to express these opinions too freely

Can I have some tips - this seems like a good 'first step' in terms of a short term solution.

Thanks

E- must try harder OP

Tell her that she will stand out a mile around the well bred and brought up members of her peer group. Explain it will be obvious she doesn't come from real old money and will end up missing out on the wonderful opportunities you have created for. That should do the trick.

*her

"we chose this school as we didn't want her to be badly influenced in a state comprehensive as she didn't quite pass her 11+"

Seems the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Am I missing something here...
Your daughter was at home for abut 8 weeks this summer if I am correct.

What steps have you and your family taken so far to make sure your daughter is not snubbing at 95% of people in this country who would never be able to spend 30K in cash on school fees?

Do you yourself keep in touch with your family and friends from times when you were less off?

All teenagers go through silly stages - I know I did. May be it's because she feels insecure in herself. I would just keep talking to her, explaining things and getting her to read the newspaper (obviously not the The Mail ;-). Give her time, unfortunately she will probably learn the hard way about money, status and being snobby!

Is it really a good idea to give the name of the school on a thread like this? I understand that you're probably a journo or some sort of troll but on the offchance you're real you could be storing up trouble for your DD if someone recognises her from the thread.

christ.

ok i am not trying to sound purposefully nasty but i think you need to analyse why dd's attitude is upsetting you so much. do you feel she looks down on your own background for example or is it that you have realised she vocalises attitudes which you may think but do not say outloud? i am speculating, not judging.

what is it that you want to teach her exactly? do you think that the deprived in society brought their fate upon themselves except for a few worthy orphans or do you just not really understand why divisions in society occur? how is your social history? for example do you think one can work oneself out of poverty and other rubbish? do you read the dialy mail?

also though in sending dd to private school what did you expect? your dd and her friends will get ahead in life because they will have advantages over other children, not because they are any more special/gifted/intelligent but because they have more money so of ocurse they focus on that!

have you raised her to believe material possesions are very important? do you ever buy second hand things etc?

'Tis a troll...attitudes like that are not reinforced at schools like this by the staff at all, which is clearly the inference here.

Nice not to notice the extra £20k she missed on the fees....

Give your dd a fiver a week as emergency transport money. She spends it on anything else comes up short she has to find another way of getting home. Stop buying her every thing bar the basics. Everything else that she wants she has to find a way to earn the money to buy them herself.

I still think you are having a giraffe. If not you certainly don't come from the same planet I live on.

I thought 10K a year was cheap for a private school! Trolls really should get their facts right before coming on here.

it is troll I am sure LOL

More crap

Craporama

Craptastic

Would be better if you just changed your name as you really are a crap poster.

But I think you'll still give yourself away by posting about blonde girls at WA.

Very odd OP. Ds is at prep school near WA and the school ensure that the boys understand how privileged they are. This takes the form of lots charity fundraising and involvement in local and foreign projects. If my ds developed an attitude like that he wouldn't stay at that school.

I assume the OP has encountered a child from WA and assumed they are all the same. I have seen secondary school children with this attitude but as others have said it may start at school but it is reinforced at home.

Send her round to the estate where I live so that she can voice her opinions openly and freely - she'll be lucky to get out alive!
That'll sort her out.

yeah, thinking about it those posts show thwt the author has no idea about kids and how schools work lol