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Social Education - My DD is too advantaged/resents the poor - please help change this!

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Willmaa · 04/09/2010 11:56

Hi all,

I my DD is wonderfully intelligent and popular with everybody in her school, Wycombe Abbey which costs just shy of £10,000 a year (we chose this school as we didn't want her to be badly influenced in a state comprehensive as she didn't quite pass her 11+)

However, as of late I have found her becoming more and more prejudice towards the poor, and less intelligent, saying for example 'just ignore them - don't pay benefits to them' or 'poor people have no dignity - look at their Primark clothes' or things to similar effect. Blush

As a Mum from a relatively disadvantaged background who is and always has been a Social Democrat and Labour supporter, I think that enough is enough and that and I want to educate her and show that many poorer people do not choose to be that way and are more of victims or circumstances.

Can anybody please suggest a way to educate my DD about people who are not from a select very advantaged family? Maybe volunteering or activities with them etc?

Thanks

OP posts:
pagwatch · 04/09/2010 14:59

OP is a dull cnut troll who is trying to get arise.

Please stop retorting in a rich vs poor style. No one thinks like. Except massive twats - and they live all over - not at posh boarding schools

Snuppeline · 04/09/2010 15:06

Hah, jank her out of school and get her a job at Tesco lower end supermarket for a year then let her go back to her school once she's educated in life's ups and downs. Or just resign yourself to having allowed your dd to think she's better than the kind you are coming from and will forever be ashamed to include you in her social and future family life. She sounds lovely you must be so proud.

pagwatch · 04/09/2010 15:12
FranSanDisco · 04/09/2010 15:17

Tesco? Lower end supermarket? Appropriate as a punishment? Snob alert perhaps? OP is a wind up so I'm off.

Snuppeline · 04/09/2010 15:19

Sorry, pagwatch its just an easy choice! It was lazy of me. I love Tesco, always have always will. And I would be proud to see either step-dc or dd work there as I would of any family member or friend. So no offense intended to you at all and my sincere apologies if you were.

pagwatch · 04/09/2010 15:20

Grin tescos and I are quite relaxed.
No probs

mrz · 04/09/2010 15:22

remind her she wasn't wonderfully intelligent enough to pass her 11+ and apologise for not being able to afford a good school {grin]

Cortina · 04/09/2010 16:02

Am I missing something? I thought Wycombe was HUGELY selective? They are not really the preserve of the '11 plus failure' I'd have thought?

Litchick · 04/09/2010 16:51

Heeeeelllllppppp.

DD just sits arund all day smoking and refusing to read. She says only posh people bother studying and she's too cool.
I'm really worried she's learning all this from her state comp.

pagwatch · 04/09/2010 16:54

It Is A Troll !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

dilemma456 · 04/09/2010 17:43

Must be a troll. DD's school would not tolerate those sort of attitudes.

Even at nursery / reception age they have joint sessions with a local state school doing sports and swimming sessions with them. Furhter up the school they do lots of community work, charity fund raising, social enterprise schemes and a lot of the older children do support work with schemes for autistic and disabled children. They've got a lot but the school makes sure that they give a lot too - its one of the reasons i chose that particular school, they ensure the girls dont live in a bubble.

If you are for real OP my advice is change your DD's school

dilemma456 · 04/09/2010 17:50

Or mmaybe OP you should encourge her to take part in the programme of community work that seems to be encouraged by Wycombe Abbey!

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 04/09/2010 17:55

Willmaa, given the couple of other threads that you have started (my daughter didn't get the lead part in the school play/my daughter didn't get the A grade she deserved) I can only assume that you are infact a journalist.

tethersend · 04/09/2010 18:32

That's a lot of effort to go to for not particularly inflammatory threads.

I mean, if you're going to make stuff up, make it juicy.

Lauriefairycake · 04/09/2010 18:38

Are you putting "poor...and less intelligent" together as if they go hand-in-hand Hmm

Your attitude that poor people are less intelligent is one of the problems.

Another is boasting about how much money you have.

And rich people's kids love shopping in Primarni.

So, in essence .....trolloramacity

Hullygully · 04/09/2010 18:38

I don't see your problem. Your dd is quite right. It needed to be said.

reallytired · 04/09/2010 19:13

If you are real, then why don't you send her to state boarding school. She would quickly have any attitudes knocked out of her and you would avoid sending her to a secondary modern. It would also fit in better with your labour values.

spottedandstriped · 04/09/2010 19:23

This is definitely a troll. It does not stack up at all.

Wycombe Abbey is a highly academic selective school.

As has been said before the fees are nearer £30k than £10k.

Not sure at all what the OP is trying to achieve....extremely odd!

NonnoMum · 04/09/2010 19:29

Sitting here in my Primark top.
Met many girls from WA when I was at Cambridge.
Think I need to leave this thread now.
I am very intelligent.
But quite poor.
Would she love me or hate me?

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 04/09/2010 19:37

10k is cheap. You can tell who the rich parents are at ds' school, they don't brag about how much money they spend and their children don't look down their noses at others. If you are whom you claim to be then I'd save myself the bank loan and send my 'darling' to the nerest state school as a private educatin is very clearly doing nothing for her/

hystericalmum · 04/09/2010 19:41

willmaa, pmsl, troll.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 06/09/2010 09:56

Willmaa Do you save money on the boarding fees by having her live under a bridge?

mumoverseas · 06/09/2010 14:48

what an odd OP, have to agree must be a troll.
Not sure where to start I have so many comments I could make but will limit them.

DS1 goes to a very expensive private school. He is from a 'normal' background. He knows he is very lucky to go there and is only there due to a significant size academic scholarship, a contribution we get from elsewhere and through DH and I working bloody hard to put him through his A levels there. Some of his peers are worse off than us, some are very wealthy. One of his best friends there is a girl who for her 18th birthday was bought a lamborgini murchlargo (sp?) She is one of the nicest people he has met and is not full of herself. She is not a snob and does not look down her nose at people.

DD1 went to a prep school from the age of 2 1/2 and now goes to a state boarding school (was more suited to her and she and DS didn't want to go to same school -divide and conquer) Wink
She too has mixed with very wealthy and not so wealthy. She has a wide range of lovely friends now and guess what one of her favourite shops is? Primark.

The children at DS's school do a lot to help the local community and last winter when local residents were snowed in many of the 6th form went out in the cold to dig them out and to clear a path for the elderly residents living nearby. None of the ridiculously wealthy students turned their noses up at the thought of helping out.

You simply cannot imply that private school children look down on less intelligent/less priviliged children/adults.

That is horse shit, or in your case OP, goat shit which clearly was left on your bridge by some lowly billy goats.

GypsyMoth · 06/09/2010 14:58

i'd take her out of that hellhole of a school and give her a proper education!!

pagwatch · 06/09/2010 15:02

it isn't a hell hole of a school!

The OP is a troll.

The school is fine I am sure.

The OP is making it up.

You are being rude about a school because a stupid twat picked its name randomly to start a trolling thread

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