Thank you. I have seen 3 different psychiatrists over 4 appointments, it is hard enough to go to these appts as it is, then when I am faced with someone new and have to go over very difficult things all over again I just feel so low and dejected, like I'm just going over old ground so they can get to know me rather than any actual progress.
To be fair to the last guy, I'd had a massively difficult morning actually getting to the appt (with ex and DS2 - basically the reason I'm there in the first place..the irony!) so was very wound up when I arrived.
Anyway, I have identified that I need to go over the abuse I was subjected to during my long marriage. This will help me deal with the flashbacks which floor me, the memories which haunt me, the fear I still have of him. I need to build my resilience. His abuse is ongoing but he uses our son now. While I am still dealing with his abuse it's hard to find the resources to deal with the past.
I am going back to court to sort out the current problems. This is not an easy thing for me to do - the time and energy, fitting it in among my existing responsibilities etc. To then add dealing with my past is going to be hard - I'm worried how I'll manage.
The ED nurse has pretty much said she thinks I'm not ready to recover yet, that I'm not ready to let it go. But while I'm hammering my body in this way, I won't have the strength I need to sort DS2 out. I need to have support for both at the same time.
She has helped me identify what works for me - distraction, calling Samaritans, planning my day to the last 5 mins; I just need to put those things in place when I have a crisis.
She has encouraged me to keep my journal up. I come and go with this, but when I'm low I stop writing. I can do this though. Also she's suggested I keep a little note book and write 3 things that made me happy each day. I've been doing that.