I need some words of wisdom. Long story short we separated two years ago, he got a place to live, not big enough really for the kids but makes it work. Then social care became involved with the children and he’s using this as a massive way to control me. He’s always been controlling and coercive but has stepped it up since I filed for divorce. He was being difficult, refusing to work with services etc, I applied to court to put in black and white the child care arrangements. He has previously taken the children and refused me access so just wanted it as a back up. No slagging him or his parenting off, just simple this is the kids routine I would like it rubber stamping…. Then comes his response… he’s been slagging me off to social care but it’s fallen of deaf ears because the older children have voiced their opinion so now he’s starting with the court and caffcass. Hes told social care he won’t get anywhere bigger because “why should he” and this “temporary” like I’m taking him back! Absolutely won’t be! Social care WOULD remove my kids if I did! He’s basically put im alcohol and drug depended and have “relapses”….. I’ve never been dependent on a substance in my life, nothing on my
medical records and I have a responsible job! He’s then stated I should only have the children on a weekend (they currently live with me) and I should be banned from touching anything including alcohol 🙄. I tried reporting the control to the police but they said “he’s gone down all the right channels so it’s a civil matter”….. I was under the impression coercive and controlling behaviour were criminal actions. He’s done similar before so I can show a pattern of abuse but they just were not interested. I don’t know what to do next, I can’t afford legal representation for court but how do I disprove all his bollocks??