I have posted here under several user names over the years (because exH hacked my account, I had to keep changing)
Seperated when my dc were babies. I had 2 under 2. Exh was controlling, emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive. I checked out the day he started to become physical. I spent years wondering why, and whether he was depressed , autistic etc or just an arsehole. I spent months, well no years again, trying to get him to understand why I wanted to end our marriage.
Eventually, i realised it didnt matter why, or whwther he agreed. I ended it. He moved out 9 months later.
That was 2017.
I was so relieved. But i knew divorce/house was going to be an ordeal. He promised to make it difficult and expensive. He continued his abusive behaviour by text. I didn't have the strength to even try to sort things out. Over the years I did try, multiple times, but ended up backing down.
Until now. 4 years after starting divorce proceedings, 3 court appearances, tens of thousands of pounds later. I am divorced and I own the house.