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Was this abuse?

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maryd84 · 18/08/2026 23:50

Hi
I have 2 children. 5yr old boy and 2yr old girl. I had to leave their father due to his behaviour. He has always been moody and easily annoyed. I felt like I was walking on eggshells around him. Nothing I did was ever good enough cleaning etc yet he could sit on the sofa playing video games. If my son had tantrums he would get really annoyed. Usual child behaviour. Not wanting his dinner, tantrums about snacks, toys etc. He would slap him really hard on the bum repeatedly, pinch him, give him freezing cold showers if he wet his pants. Kick him hard on the bum, shouting and cursing at him and locking him in a room for a few minutes. The worst I think were the cold showers. Hearing him scream. Ive also seen him being rough with my little girl. Lifting her up roughly when she won't sleep. The tension in the house was terrible. I had to get my children out of that situation. I managed to buy a house and they are with me most of the time. Now they problem is he gets unsupervised access. I am afraid of my ex and I do not trust him and i worry when he has them and I'm not there to keep an eye on things. What do I do?

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Itsafable · 18/08/2026 23:55

Yes I'm sorry all of that was abuse. The kicking and cold showers made me feel physically sick. You need to report this to the police. And then social services they are not safe with him. You were right to leave but wrong to keep his abuse of your children to yourself.

maryd84 · 19/08/2026 00:05

Yes I have informed social services

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