A thread for emotional abuse

[Squishymama]

Society taught us to leave if he hit you. No one told us what to do when he drove over the speed limit swerving and smacking the steering wheel, when you cowered he told you to get out if you couldn’t bear to sit next to him, if he was such an ogre that you were scared to accept a lift. I was 28 weeks pregnant, and was late to my appointment for a foetal heart scan. I hopped out the car and ran to my appointment, they did the scan and afterwards sat me in a room with floral wallpaper and a box of tissues. I was terrified. DD was/is fine. After I had to phone my ExHB and flag him down as he drove past.

Antone care to add?

First of all, just wanted to say, that sounds absolutely terrifying and I really hope you're okay, and that you're safe ❤Glad to hear your daughter is fine.

Speaking from personal experience, yes, I can totally agree. There's always this notion that we should leave, find our strength, move on and not accept the bullshit but it's never that easy and never that straight forward.
Often times we might not even recognise that someone's behaviour is abusive until we're out of the situation, I know that that's what it's like for me.
My abuse situation was lots of belittling remarks, name-calling, constant cheating accusations. He also used to invite me over to his place and then go out with his mates and lock me in the house with no escape. I didn't realise how fucked up this all was until I did leave

Totally agree. I didn’t know I was being abused until my GP told me.