Hi - please no judgement.
I have been married for 2 months and already not happy in my marriage.
My husband drinks everyday and also lies to me about his drinking too.
When I confront him he deflects and shifts blame onto me and won’t admit to lying when I can clearly tell he is intoxicated slurred speech and unsteady on his feet.
I didn’t live with him before marriage as this is not allowed due to cultural reasons.
What do I do? I have tried talking to him about his drinking numerous times and he says it’s not a problem but it is. I feel so lost and alone and feel like if I talk to any of my family or friends they will not be supportive and judge-mental.
He is perfect in every other way and no abuse of any kind, he works pays all the bills doesn’t control me in anyway but promised me his drinking won’t affect the marriage but it is. It’s just the drinking everyday I’m struggling to cope with and really on edge and anxious on social gatherings as worried he will embarrass me and let me down. When he starts he doesn’t not know when to stop but won’t listen to me when I tell him.
On top of this he has a few health problems with is made worse by drinking but he doesn’t seem to take responsibility for his own health. He said he wants a baby but I won’t be bringing a child into this world/marriage when I already have these doubts.
My family won’t support me in leaving him as said I chose him myself so can’t ever come back to them. I live with him in his family home but I am financially independent I go to work full time and have my own money.
If it continues I don’t think I can wait another 10 months before filing for divorce. Can I get marriage annulled due to false promises and alcoholism?