Parenting alone

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Recently split from H, and we share parenting at weekends somewhat. Not fully in a routine yet as second baby is due very soon so still a bit up in the air. Seems a bit more apparent this weekend as ive had toddler all weekend due to Ex being away for a family occasion I should have also been at.

I feel like I find it difficult both when my toddler is away with their Dad, and also when im solo parenting. It can be a bit of a lonely existence and I do try to make plans for both of the above but can't be busy all the time.

How does everyone else, cope and adjust to this?

Find its times like these that make me wish we could go back in time and still be a family unit.

I’m sorry you’re struggling OP, I think first and foremost it is an adjustment and just a case of time to settle into a new routine.

One of my best friends became a single parent earlier this year and we all had lots of chaotic dinners, sleepovers, days out with multiple crazy toddlers and now she openly says she enjoys her calm weekends just her & the kids. You will get there, it just takes time x

Use the time when the toddler is with ex to batch cook, clean and make sure that you socialise and rest. Really important. I use my time to prep for the time I have the kids as it means I have food tha tis easier to prepare so I can give my attention to the kids while they are with me. It helps me feel productive and like I'm doing something for our little family. Then when they come back I am fully refreshed.
It is hard, I am still not great at it and usually give myself a to do list that is too big to complete. But by fitting in that social life and a film or bath, I am moving towards slowing down and not constantly moving.