Ex 30 year age gap relationship

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Ex is 60. Wanting to introduce children to 30 year old new partner with whom he previously had affair. How is this all going to pan out? Why the heck does she even want this? It’s mystifying.

The thing is the age really, really doesn’t matter, she’s an adult. It stings of course and introducing any new woman to your DC will be painful. I’d try to think of it that she is younger, hopefully more energetic and keen and might really help in terms of a child care role. Don’t make her the enemy, get her on your side!

Goodness, well I hope she will just be a useful babysitter… But so far the drift has been away from babysitting, never mind parenting, by my ex or her

Theres really nothing you can do about this OP. Your ex really does sound like a twat but your hands are a bit tied. Honestly for your own sake I would try to be zen about this.

Is he paying Child Support?

I am really lucky as there is some GREAT INFO about this online!
He is paying, since very recently, a self-elected amount that is possibly more than the minimum child maintenance requirement but considerably less than the needs of the family on any expectation and particularly the lifestyle expectations he set. I pay EVERYTHING else from my income (I was always the workhorse/ breadwinner)

My sons already been through meeting and losing one love in gf of his dads, and her child, before he turned 2.

You just have to let them get on with it as long as they're safe if he's already made the decision to move in.

Wow how grim is he. She must have mental difficulties, or is a gold digger. You are well rid OP

Sending hugs. This must be so painful. I'd send a solicitor's letter explaining you don't consent to your children being referenced on social media or used as props. Yes you do have parental rights to protect them from bad influences, particularly if your ex is such a loser.

Apologies if this has been mentioned, but his debt (including that he’s taking up now), will be considered as part of overall marital pot.
You need to prioritise a divorce