Husband

[Housewife565]

I am thinking about leaving my husband because I working 2 jobs and I get no respected at home I have to get home and do all the house work and washing and dinner while he sits at home all day and does nothing

LTB.
Easier said than done I know. Start making a plan. This is assuming you've exhausted trying to speak to him to no avail?

Yes, LTB

Do it!

What do I need to do first

Have you spoken to him? I know we all like to think they notice these things but they don't always.

And do you want him to change? I reached a point where my husband said he could do things differently/better/was sorry(ish!) but I didn't love him any more so that was largely irrelevant.

If you are definitely decided then you should post with more details on ages of kids, financial set up, working and housing arrangements and more specific help can be given. What would you like to happen?

The very first thing you need to do is organise where you will live.