Can my ex Force sale on family home when I can’t afford mortgage/rent?

[Divorceerookie]

I am wondering as my ex has recently decided he wants 50/50 with everything.
He recently out the blue said he wanted the kids (4&10) 50% after refusing to have them more only a few months previously. He then stated he wants 50% of finances after previously getting a separation agreement drawn up stating approx 80/20 out of house as he owns another property and has savings.

The house is in his name, we got married November 22 and he left the family home August 23. Long relationship but shorter marriage.
family home and his other property are owned outright, family home worth approximately 415, other property approx 125.

i have always worked around the kids as I am the primary parent. I am a TA in their school so low income, I have debt too accumulated by trying to stay a float these last couple of years.

he’s saying he will force the sale of the house to get the money.

I am so anxious about this.
I cannot stop him having our children 50% the time and am currently trying to negotiate this despite this breaking my heart!

been DV over the years and finances has always been one of them.

can he force the sale ?

I have no way of getting a mortgage or renting
where I live average price for a small 3 bed is a min of 350k

I am terrified if he forces the sale of the house I won’t be able to afford to house the children. I don’t want to loose them!

any experience/ knowledge/ advice would be welcome ☺️

Yes thanks. My reply was to someone else. Suggest you read the whole thread!

@ShinyShona your reply to somebody else doesn't stop anybody else calling you out on a shitty bitchy post towards somebody who is having a really awful time and who SHOULD be able to rely on the other parent to step up for their child emotionally and financially. I read the thread, thanks.

If you are bored and want to start a fight with somebody, instead of wasting my time I'd suggest you head into your local town and do it for real.

People might be able to rely on their ex, but in cases when they're also relying on their ex to do most of the earning it's not always reasonable to expect them to be able to do 50/50 too. In fact, there's a thread on this very board from someone in that position. She doesn't seem to be getting the same vitriol though, can't think why 🤔

You sound really reasonable, strong and inspirational with the way you’re dealing with such a lot of difficulty and the way you are still being so kind to your abuser despite how behaviour. Too kind.

You can register your beneficial interest in both the flat and the house with the land registry to stop him from selling them until there is an agreement in place. This is free and relatively simple.

Claim UC asap.

Why would you leave his pension out of the pot for division? You’re not only disadvantaging yourself, think of your children too. Marital funds went in to his pension pot so you have as much entitlement as he does.

I saw your message about debt.
I have accumulated so much debt since I separated from my husband and we are due our final financial hearing in March. I am at breaking point now due to 1). accumulating debt due to moving out when he refused to let me take anything from the family home and 2). having to pay 100% of his mortgage when he refused to pay any when I applied for child maintenance.
I am wondering if they will take this into consideration when the assets/debts are looked into?
I have a feeling the court will order a sale of the house but I can't go on with this debt for the next year or so (if it takes that long to sell). My outgoings are higher than my incomings and I'm literally at breaking point.