I’m after some advice or similar situations. My partner of 6 years has taken a dislike to one of my children as he’s grown older. We have different parenting styles. He feels I should be more strict. He calls my children unruly and delinquent. He has been lovely with them when they were younger, my eldest is now 13, going through an awkward phase, wanting to spend more time in his room, huffing and puffing about doing a chore a day. Maybe an eye roll here and there, he does do the chore but would obviously prefer not to. My partner feels he is very rude, he’s very old school and will tell him off for even leaving a cup out. My partner has been nit picking at him I’ve noticed over the last few months. It all came to a head and my partner shouted at him the other week. My son has told me he feels uncomfortable when I’m not around and that he doesn't like him anymore.
ive discussed this with my partner and asked him to try and spend more time together to rebuild the relationship, he is refusing and says I need to be more strict and this is the issue. Children should listen and it’s up to my son to put more effort in. I disagree and think this should first come from the adult. Just for context my partner fell out with his son at a simliar age and has not seen him for two years and again has been stubborn when I’ve asked him to try and make amends with his own son he says it should come from his son. My son has been trying as well, doing his chores and homework when he’s comes home, trying to be more chatty with my partner, I’ve noticed the effort he has put in but my partner says he hasn’t noticed a change. This has been going on a few weeks now, I’ve told my partner this can’t carry on and needs to be resolved. I will always put the children first and have said if this can’t be resolved we will have to part ways ? Thoughts