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Sexless marriage?

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barefoot101 · 08/06/2024 23:47

Anyone on here separated from a sexless marriage? Whilst I don't think sex is the highest priority when been married for two decades...a relationship without ANY intimacy at all just feels like being married to a best friend. I recently called time on it and we're in the process of separating. It feels so very sad, but having no intimacy at all has just ground me down (we've talked about it a lot over many years but no change...). When parenthood then throws us curveballs, we're not united enough to be able to deal with it and this leads to arguments (probably fueled by a build up of resentment on my part). To salvage our 'friendship', this really is the right time to begin anew.

Would love to maybe hear shared stories/strength from others who have had the same experience and what it was like moving on...(btw all is very amicable and hoping to remain friends after the split to help with our teenage children).

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trailblazer42 · 24/09/2024 11:47

I don't think that sex equates to intimacy at all and that is what I've been missing. Me and my husband were still having sex (sporadically to be honest, we could go for weeks and months between and then it would become more frequent) but there was no intimacy. I was certainly going through the motions, there would be no affection, kissing or cuddling and sometimes the loneliness I would feel after it as he rolled away and fell asleep would bring me to tears.

He thinks I don't enjoy sex but that is far from the truth, but I have lost all desire to be intimate with him. We are well past that now but I would actually rather have sex with him than hold his hand or kiss him.

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