Short marriage no children divorce

[H90]

Hello,

Sorry for reaching out on here but I am in a bit of a situation and wanted some guidance if possible.

I was in a short marriage around 1 and a half years and my husband decided to file for divorce. We have no children involved. He has since moved out of the property and I am the only person living in it. I am a low earner so he is still paying for the full mortgage payments.

He has multiple property’s bought a long time before we were married. We bought one family home prior to our wedding which we both lived in (for around 20months). We bought the property in joint names and the mortgage is joint also. He paid a large deposit of £110k whilst I did not pay anything towards it.

His income is reasonable of around 50k per year and mine is around 15k per year but I have some health issues where I need time off work and not really much of a mortgage capacity to help me house myself in the future.

What is the best solution for me? Currently I am asking for 60% of the equity in the property which would be around £160k, which would help me with my housing needs for the future. He is not accepting this and has now filed for court.

… theres only a large equity because of him!

You’ve put fuck all into this house. And no, a bit of shopping doesn’t really count.

"Why should I feel ashamed when I married in good faith and he has now left me?"

Sounds like you married in good faith that you'd have a meal ticket for life.

The vibe I’m getting from your posts is that your background isn’t British. If that’s correct, what is your background as I wonder if that’s clouding your thoughts on what you think you’re entitled to?

Don’t forget about the council tax 😂😂

You’ve had some really judgey comments here. Nobody knows what the true situation is with your health, whether you were well prior to marriage or whether he’s left you because your health declined or any other scenario, whether he even allowed you to work more or not. I understand your fear of the future considering the insane cost of living right now.

You say you bought your property prior to marriage and then moved in. Did you buy it as tenants in common or joint tenants? Did he seek to protect his deposit at the time?

She’s only started paying the council tax since he moved out, @Ihatethenewlook

Sorry but you are being greedy. With 50k you can put it towards a part ownership flat or a deposit. You should accept the offer.

@H90

Seriously wake up. Use your context clues and have a big think about why the smiley solicitor who you'd engage to then charge you huge fees might exaggerate what you are entitled too. Any possible ideas occurring to you?

Jesus H Christ.

You are entitled to feck all. You genuinely are. It's barely a marriage, zero kids, you contributed zero capital (no shopping doesn't count whatever do you sound like) you will get a tiny amount.

As OP said, you're going to come out of this really wishing you just took the £20k.

My best friend is a divorce lawyer. It's almost like I know the wonderful "oh you deserve this" crap they tell people just to draw them into engaging their services.

OP, are you running out of money to hire your current solicitor? I think that is what you have said. This solicitor is the one who has negotiated the offer which most PP think is fair ( that is, as much as you are likely to get).

How are you intending to pay the next solicitor? Let me give you a clue : the fees will come out of your eventual settlement, and make no mistake, they will, because there is no one more tenacious about debts than a solicitor except possibly the Mafia.

Quit while you are ahead.

OP, I think you'll be getting a wake up call very soon re the amount you'll end up with.
It will bear no relation to the amounts that are flashing in your eyes right now.

have you paid your current solicitor up to date ?

I think you're going to be very disappointed if you think you have this amount coming to you. Check again with your lawyer.

At most you should get £80k - £270k equity minus his £110k deposit divided by two. Anything else is you being greedy. It really is. You couldn’t afford a house before you married him, why would you expect to come out with one? It doesn’t matter what he earns compared to you, nor about your health needs to not work - why should someone fund your life after a really short marriage and no kids?

Your marriage has ended and your ex has no obligation to give you money for your future housing after a childless 18 month marriage. It sounds like you didn’t contribute anything to the marriage anyway.

How on earth can you expect him to give you a larger proportion of the equity in a house that you didn’t even pay for and you’re living in for free??!!

Wow! I've never seen such entitlement

hang on a second... you are based in London and you think you can buy a flat with 160k?

😂

I would accept the offer

Christ alive OP.
Why would you expect to come out of an 18 month marriage with more than you went into it with?
You have contributed nothing, you earn next to nothing, why should you expect husband fund your lifestyle? HE OWES YOU NOTHING, The offer is exceptionally generous.
You need to stop looking for a meal ticket and get educated, work hard, earn a more reasonable salary and PAY YOUR OWN WAY IN LIFE like 99.9% of the population do!
I hope it goes to court and they wipe the floor with you, because you're being incredibly greedy.

“Morally, I think it’s my right to get what I deserve, and I should be able to house myself once this financial resolution is over”

You keep mentioning ‘morally’ please stop cos you clearly don’t have any. 60% of everything when you didn’t pay deposit or mortgage? He did, it was a very short marriage, you’ve no dependents that stopped you working and earning more. I do think legally you are entitled to something as your name is on the mortgage but don’t let greed make you turn down a smaller percentage because anything you get would be a bonus.

“Why should I settle for less?”

Because you contributed less, you didn’t contribute 50/60% to the deposit or mortgage payments

"I’m not being greedy in this"

Thanks for the 🤣 this morning. It's been a stressful week so far. I needed this tonic this morning.

You are absolutely being greedy and should be embarrassed. Why on earth should your husband set you up for life after such a short relationship?

You're giving women a bad name with your attitude, you should be ashamed. Move back in with your parents or get a room in a house share.

Marriage should not be used to get on the property ladder. Pathetic and desperate of you to think it will.

It's a short marriage and if he can prove he supplied the deposit i hope you do get 50% of any remaining equity after he's got his deposit back. Which imo is right and fair.

I can see why he left if your attitude towards this is you should get 60% of everything after contributing very little. You sound grabby and entitled. Not a nice trait in a person. If I was in his shoes I'd be gutted at your attitude.

Be very careful here op.

Solicitors are paid by the minute for the work they do.

It could very well be the case that you have found a solicitor who is simply telling you what you want to hear, because the more work they do, the more they get paid.

They get paid regardless of whether the courts reject your 60% equity request on the basis that it's absurd. (And actually pretty horrible to want half of his own parents deposit money).

I get that you 'want' a house. Doesn't everybody? But life doesn't work like that. If you want a house, then you need to earn a house.

I cannot stress enough that you need to speak properly with a solicitor, paid for time, to get the full picture. With only 18 months married the courts are far more likely to depart from the typical needs based factors and simply put you back to where you both were before marriage. You couldn’t afford to house yourself before, so they have no obligation to give you money to house yourself now.