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Leaving OH

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AltheaVestr1t · 05/10/2023 07:54

I'm leaving my husband (together for 22 years, married for 8). We have two children, one at Uni, and one DD at home age 13.

OH is shocked to say the least. Things are not awful, though they have been awful many times before. They are just flat and dull and empty, and I've realised that our relationship has always been unhealthy.

OH doesn't want to split, and wont leave the house. So I'll have to find a rental, and start again with nothing while we detangle through the courts. DD will be 50/50.

I feel like an absolute bitch. But there's no space for me to be myself in my marriage and I couldn't bear the thought of this being all I had to look forward to.

Anyone else?

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AltheaVestr1t · 02/11/2023 18:30

Coffeeandanap · 02/11/2023 16:42

Congratulations on the move! My children behaved the same as yours, excited about the new house & getting new rooms. It honestly wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I thought it would be. I’m very lucky that they’ve never once expressed sadness at it & I’m 10 months in now.

The sadness you feel is to be expected, I had it in waves for the first couple of weeks, I would describe it as shock and grieving what could have been, I’ve never once regretted my decision though.

Thanks @Coffeeandanap, that is really good to know!

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