Christmas tomorrow and my eldest couldn't be less fussed at spending time together. I've tried so many times, I did 1:1 dates with them all but she declined her offer.
I'm also sick of him seeming to "win" all the time. Trophy Dad comes out top trumps everytime. He doesn't provide for them, I haven't ever had a penny off him since the split and he just manages to be top.
Sorry if this sounds petty, it's just exhausting being at battle with him and his mother who seem to have pots of money despite not doing an honest days work.
I'm also at a cross roads for where to take this in the new year.
I've had intro to mediation, he's been contacted but refuses to answer the phone or email to them.
the school have tried to contact him but no reply.
im also worried as he smokes cannabis and drinks at times. my kids come back stinking of it. as far as im aware he doesn't smoke around them but the smell of weed is in the house and then gets on the clothes.
how haven't the school noticed this?? if i say something in petrified it will make the kids been flagged up by the social.
the two eldest children have learnt themselves what 'THAT' smell is exactly. as they're not silly and are in upper school. also if i mention these things - im petrified it will only push the eldest further away from me.
she looks right through me like im dead.
i go to the door and she has the same level of excuses "im cold, i dont want to come out, i need to do this, do that.
i went to the door today and she had the same excuses, reluctant to speak. he said "shut the door the heat is going out, she said mums here, then she just changed the subject, he walked past me as i asked her if she was coming home for a bit even if for a few hours to have some time and she said no. he walked past and back in the hoise and they both went in and closed the door.