DH's ex-wife still wants my information.

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Promise to keep it short after my rather long-winded previous thread!
My DH has received another letter from his exW's solicitor asking again for my income and copies of my payslips and also a mortgage assessment calculation for a joint mortgage between us. (We are not currently in a position to buy together) so haven't got one
The letter also states they will be raising the issue of his lack of knowledge of my income with the judge. Fair enough :)
I just want confirmation that he doesn't have to supply the answers unless ordered to by a Judge? He has been absolutely transparent with all the financial information and provided all the documentation required. First Hearing is next week.

😂 😂 😂

This is exactly the response I'd be sending back.

This sounds like a fishing expedition? I'd do some research around it l and consider reporting them to the ombudsman for harassment. I don't see how this is your responsibility? Good luck, sounds like a very stressful situation

What a pity that any documents they demand won’t reach them in time. Postal strike 😂

Why do they want all this info? You weren’t married to the ex wife.

Cma wouldn’t give a shit about your finances.

Why?

if he’s your DH surely they are already divorced so what’s the reason for the ask?

Presumably she's after higher maintenance based on your income?

To be honest her solicitor could write a letter requesting your bra size , doesn't mean she is entitled to that information. The solicitor is only happy to write the letter and get paid

As above solicitors can ask the questions on behalf of the client but it doesn't mean you need to answer. Does your DH have a solicitor?

@CombatBarbie to be honest it is slightly similar to the reply just sent, only worded a little better.😃
@AlwaysFoldingWashing I do understand that DH's 'needs' are less as we have two incomes as opposed to her one (although she is the higher earner) but I do feel they are trying to bully him into submission! This was a previous pattern post separation, hence no financial order in place previously!
@ihatethefuckingmuffin Maintenance is not the issue as he has always paid above CMS rate. It is because no financial order was put in place at the time of the divorce and she has now decided to claim pensions, 100% of the jointly owned house and spousal support.
Lesson to all- make sure you don't re-marry unless you have a sealed clean break order!

As pp says, your DH's solicitor will be able to tell you what you need to provide, if anything. If you are already married to her exDH, surely the divorce is complete and all financial matters resolved already?

Our messages crossed OP. Questions answered. Good advice about remarriage, though

Don't reply to the letter. They can threaten all they like. Your income is absolutely not applicable to his ex or CMA payments.

Remember a solicitor will write any old shite.. It was demanded I remove my new blinds as now exh could no longer see into my home.
No judge followed up on that one.
Ignore op.
And laugh at her absolute desperation.

In my experience under similar circumstances, because my husband moved straight in with OW, she was court ordered to disclose her financial information including mortgage statements. So they can ask now, you absolutely don't have to provide that information but it's likely you will be ordered to by the court. This is pretty standard.

I can't believe your ex didn't get this sorted before remarrying. Sorry but that's just idiotic.

@TheFormidableMrsC not familiar with any of this stuff. Why did the ow need to disclose her financial information?

Because if you live with another person, then it is about balancing the needs of both parties. Two incomes are vastly different to one single parent. So it was for my benefit really. She didn't want to disclose and refused but was summonsed and subject to penal notice. My ex's needs were met in terms of housing and joint income which meant my award was much greater.

Thanks for all the replies everyone and sorry to not tag everyone, I cross posted!
He has not got a solicitor at this stage and probably won't unless it goes to final hearing.

I am helping with correspondence and as he got to this stage before during the divorce, he was already familiar with competing Form E, collating the information required and doing the Questionnaire and Responses etc.
Just for info, we have been married for several years and he has been divorced a lot longer.
I think I am just getting a bit cross; today the solicitor wanted to know my job title and employer's name. Now I am pretty sure the ExW knows it and a quick google would find me, so it is all irrelevant.

Thanks @TheFormidableMrsC

Just to clarify I was not involved in the divorce and I didn't meet him until several years later.
But I agree he was an idiot for it not being sorted although he did think it was all sorted🙄
As for balancing the 'needs' as I mentioned she is the higher (but not HIGH) earner, is still in the FMH because of DC (quite rightly) although it exceeds her needs. DH got the considerable debt and living with a family member for a year or so until he could rent a small house. (I moved into the same house as it was to less disruptive for the then small DC)
I am ok to disclose if court ordered as I haven't got anything to hide (and by far not a high earner) but refuse to be bullied into it which is what it feels like at the moment.

I don't think that information is relevant either. I understand them asking about income and mortgage commitments. You will very likely have to do that. I also think she's a bit late to be asking for spousal and is unlikely to get that.

Her solicitor must be laughing all the way to the bank, every time you receive a letter requesting info, she's being charged. As a pp says, she could request your shoe size or your parents incomes, her solicitor will do as they are told, it makes them money. Doesn't mean you have to supply it.

Ignore the request and push court yourself, and get this sorted once and for all

You're not married, right?

Then she is not entitled to your money, only his and only what is a reasonable sum.

When you get to court, you can clarify everything there, she thinks you're going to find her lifestyle. But she's got another thing coming.... keep smiling :)

I replied to my now Exs ExWs solicitors request for my medical information and my financial information via email - it was a simple “LOL, no.”

We weren’t living together, had only been dating 6 months (in fact we only dated for 12 months total and he never even met my DDs!), but even if we had been living together, and married, I’d have replied the same.

They are married and therefore the court will likely expect disclosure.

I would send a letter back to the solicitor and state that you will disclose this only to the court if ordered to do so and will be asking that personal information such as job title and employee are redacted as I see no reason for her to need that information.

i would also urge DH to fight for a percentage of the property even is that is once youngest is 18 as you currently rent and cannot afford to buy.

Would it be inappropriate to reply to the solicitor that you are happily married to your DH so their fishing exercise to see your personal financial circumstances before seeing if you are worth enough to try and whisk you off in a whirlwind romance probably won't work but they should send a photograph, link to a dating profile and a recipocal personal financial statement together with positive recommendations from at least two recent ex'es so you can see the whole picture before deciding if it's worth throwing your DH to the kerb?