I’ve been lurking on MN for a while whilst trying to navigate married life and being a stepmum.
Things have been gradually getting worse and I’m really struggling now. I don’t want to talk to my friends about it because I still feel confused about what I want.
The main issues have been around DH’s lack of communication and refusal to deal with things with something goes wrong. This is particularly worse when it’s something relating to his DC.
DH behaviour can be so disrespectful towards me but it’s like he doesn’t even see what he’s doing wrong. He says he loves me, wants to make it work, etc but I feel like I see very little evidence of it.
I have thought about ending it which is hard because I do love him and it’s been a short marriage.
Other than the emotional side of it, I’m really
worried about the financial aspect. I had my own house before we married (which we live in, though it’s just in my name) and I have been quite good with money. Whereas he had no property and some debts. We don’t have shared finances currently, no joint accounts, etc (at his request).
I have a DC, I worked my backside off whilst he was growing up so I could be a good provider for him, and don’t want to risk losing the home he’s grown up in, or having to get into debt myself to pay off DH (I know he will be entitled to something).
I guess I’m just trying to work out how I can protect myself if the worst should happen. Any help or experiences would be appreciated.