I happily took DH's name when we married, but after 5 abusive years I can't wait to see the back of him. However our primary-age DC have his surname, and if I change back to my maiden name I will be different to them...
I don't know if being different matters to me (possibly it does), or whether it will matter to them (they might barely notice or it might be yet another thing for them to deal with).
Anyone done/not done this and has strong feelings about it either way?