Hi I’m looking forward advice / support, I am at the end of what I can take with STBXH.
I left him at the end of May, things had been difficult for years, a lot of anger issues / emotional abuse on his side.
We have DS9 and DS6.
We still live under the same roof and it is taking its toll, I am struggling to cope. A lot of tension, arguments happening in front of the kids etc..
We have a flat that was rented (accidental landlords, we lived there and couldn’t sell when we needed to find somewhere bigger). It is on the market, we will need the cash to finance STBXH to have a deposit for a new property / me to be able to lower the mortgage on the house.
Tenants are moving out on 30th September and I have suggested that STBXH moved there whilst it is on the market, so we can all have a more peaceful life. Have offered for him to come to the family home twice a week to see the boys, and said I would go to the gym / see a friend on those evenings so he has privacy with the children.
He is point blank refusing to move. No reason given / impossible to discuss with him without him yelling at me all sorts of awful things.
We had an appointment with a mediator last week, that he arranged, but she emailed me the cost and I can’t afford it. It would be £450 each for the first ´proper’ session and the final report, then £200 each for every additional session.
What can I do??? I am totally lost, I can’t live like this. Am seriously thinking of moving to the appartement myself, but I feel like I can’t live my children…
Any advice would be gratefully received…