I've been with my husband for 20 years. We split last year but have carried on living in the same house. This is having a big impact on both of our mental health and we have decided to split our time with the kids (14 and 7) evenly. The plan was as follows:
Week one - I would stay home with the kids alone Monday, Tuesday, ex would come for dinner Wednesday night and stay till Thursday morning and the return on Sunday. I would swap and do the same (stay away/back) on the same days. This means neither of us are away from our kids for too many days. I spoke to my 14 yo today about it (we told him about the split ages ago) and he was so upset and he said he just wants us to all live together forever!
Any advice about how I can make this any easier for him