Threat of court - children are adults

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Hi I’m not sure where to put this so if it’s on the wrong place can someone tell me so I can get it moved.

Me and my ex are divorced a long time and our children are now all adults. They have little to no contact with their dad.

When they were smaller he refused to give me his address once he moved in with his girlfriend (now wife) and when I moved house he took me to court to get my address as part of a wider action (I wanted both of us to have each other’s address and he refused to do this as he lived with his girlfriend.). Both of us were told to tell the other their address (sensible). I had no problem with that.

I’ve now moved again as I bought a house approximately 18 months ago. The children were all over 18 at the time I did this.

He is very angry that the “children” don’t want to see him at his house as his wife is there and she has been very poorly behaved towards the children.

As part of this anger, he is blaming me for everything and is threatening to take me to court to get my address.

I was just wondering if anyone knew how likely it actually was that I’d be forced to give him my address? Surely our connection has to stop at some point?

I agree you tell him to address any further communication to your solicitor. A very clear 'no and fuck off' will help you so he can't claim you were being ambiguous. As for blocking vs just ignoring, others may have views but from my perspective it might help to have evidence if he tries to ratchett it up. But that would depend on your comfort levels, and if the stress of listening to his shit impacts on your badly. Then I'd go with what you need to do for your inner sense of stability and calm.

(I'm not saying you shoudl say 'fuck off' mind, just that this is the subtext!)

I would LOVE to tell him to fuck off but that’s almost playing onto his hands.

Thanks all - I shall ignore and put old phone in a drawer and just ignore him. I was just concerned it might end up on court and with him getting my address but that seems to be just hot air on his part.

Which court is he going to go to, exactly?

@HollowTalk

Which court is he going to go to, exactly?

I don’t know. He just says he’s going to take me to court.

An imaginary court for very angry men

@MsTSwift

An imaginary court for very angry men

😂😂😂

Ime his life is very empty and he is looking for ways to fill it. Bullying you being his first choice..
During our court case spanning 4 years..our cases were always heard after 1.30pm - the afternoon slot...exh was already wearing his suit on the morning school run.. Sad bastard...

I think it's time to sign off. Simply reply that as the dc are now all.over 18 years old any communication can be made directly with them. You have no further need for contact between yourselves. Should he wish to address anything further with you he is welcome to communicate via the solicitor .

Then block, take a deep breath and reward yourself with wine/chocolate/new sports car as appropriate for getting through to this point without commiting murder

Actually ammendment*

He is welcome to have his solicitor communicate via your solicitor

If he is going to waste your time it might as well cost him money.

Tell your solicitor just to forward any communication and you will respond if required.

Report him to the police for harassment.