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Threat of court - children are adults

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 07:46

Hi I’m not sure where to put this so if it’s on the wrong place can someone tell me so I can get it moved.

Me and my ex are divorced a long time and our children are now all adults. They have little to no contact with their dad.

When they were smaller he refused to give me his address once he moved in with his girlfriend (now wife) and when I moved house he took me to court to get my address as part of a wider action (I wanted both of us to have each other’s address and he refused to do this as he lived with his girlfriend.). Both of us were told to tell the other their address (sensible). I had no problem with that.

I’ve now moved again as I bought a house approximately 18 months ago. The children were all over 18 at the time I did this.

He is very angry that the “children” don’t want to see him at his house as his wife is there and she has been very poorly behaved towards the children.

As part of this anger, he is blaming me for everything and is threatening to take me to court to get my address.

I was just wondering if anyone knew how likely it actually was that I’d be forced to give him my address? Surely our connection has to stop at some point?

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starrynight21 · 25/05/2021 07:52

He sounds like a twat. I wouldn't think there would be any chance that the court would make you divulge your address. The judge made you both share addresses in the past because of child visitation issues, but that doesn't exist any more. I'd tell him " do feel free to pay a lawyer on this issue" and then ignore him. He'll get nowhere with it.

coodawoodashooda · 25/05/2021 07:54

I've been through a ton of court grief and at 18 they are now able to decide for themselves.

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 07:54

Thank you. That’s basically what I’ve said - feel free to take me to court.

I’m just slightly anxious that I’ll have to tell him when our kids aren’t kids anymore. Thanks for replying.

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MandUs · 25/05/2021 18:29

Your kids are also old enough where they don't need to have any contact with him so I'd remove myself from all of this and leave it for them to decide.

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 25/05/2021 18:34

What a complete knob. I can't imagine for one second that the court would make you divulge your address to your ex when your children are legal adults?! What possible reason could there be for this!

He's bluffing anyway but if he did actually take you to court he'd look such a twat.

ElspethFlashman · 25/05/2021 18:39

Do they even live with you?

HollowTalk · 25/05/2021 18:42

What does he plan to do once he has your address?

UCOinanOCG · 25/05/2021 18:44

He is an idiot. He will be wasting time and money pursuing your address through the court now your children are adults.

OnlyInYourDreams · 25/05/2021 18:46

I would almost be willing him to go to court so you could have a good laugh.

There’s no way the courts are going to get involved here, you are divorced, your children are adults, he can do one. But yes I would tell him he is free to go to court and that you’ll see him there.

PanamaPattie · 25/05/2021 18:54

What an entitled idiot. Let him crack on. He has no right to your address. He is married to someone else and your children are adults. I don't quite understand why he needs it.

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 19:07

One lives with me when not away and uni and will probably come home after graduation. The others are all left home and living on their own or with partners.

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 19:07

*at uni

Sorry

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ShoutingBirb · 25/05/2021 19:22

Absolute wanker. Ignore him completely.

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 19:23

😁 @ShoutingBirb. He is. In my opinion. He’s fond of loudly proclaiming he has rights. (Or he was, when I still had to deal with him)

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RandomMess · 25/05/2021 21:33

I would block him on absolutely everything he is absolutely nothing to do with you anymore seeing as though your adult DC want nothing to do with him!

I hope he wastes his money taking you to court 🤣

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 22:13

😂😂😂

He lives 10 mins or less away in the car and DD is here tonight and didn’t even call in to see him on the way.

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RandomMess · 25/05/2021 22:17

Aren't you glad he's an ex!!

Aprilwasverywet · 25/05/2021 22:18

Have you posted about him before op?

Doyoumind · 25/05/2021 22:25

What court is he threatening to take you to?! No family court would deal with that case. If he lives close by and really wanted to know there are much easier ways to find out anyway. Ignore. Now your DC are adults, he is out of your life until they get married, have children etc

User135792468 · 25/05/2021 22:34

I echo the others. What a twat! Please let him waste his money on solicitors 🤣

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 22:37

I haven’t @Aprilwasverywet

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Cadburyflakeicecream · 25/05/2021 22:37

@RandomMess yes!

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RandomMess · 25/05/2021 22:39

You aren't alone, there have been posters with similar issues!

One was being threatened with court contact when her DS was about to turn 18 😂😂😂😂

Mummytemping · 25/05/2021 22:42

Let him take you to court, it would be helpful as proof of his harassment. He sounds deluded.

Starlightstarbright1 · 25/05/2021 22:46

I also would block him.. you no longer need his rantings.