50/50 split - he pays nothing?

[Stitchandapples]

As I understand the above is true.
However I have worked part time / been a sahm whilst he has built his career and travelled all over the world. His involvement with the children has been very low, he’s golfed at weekends rather than spending time with them.
His income - pre tax - is around £150k, sometimes more.
My income - 30 hours a week job - is £16k a year.

I understand I’ve got to support myself etc but my earning potential is nothing like his. I had a career pre dc which I gave up. I understand this is my own fault but the standards in living are going to be massively at odds. I’m not quite sure how I’m going to manage. I’m not going to be able to afford to buy anything for the children or take them anywhere or do anything with them.

Is the above true?

OP I think you need to get legal advice and take it from there. I suspect he has worn you down to the point where you just want to give in but you need to fight because for your children him having 50/50 isnt the best thing.

Good luck I think there are some stickies around that give you more information as to who to contact.

And what do you mean by isnt safe - womens aid as well maybe able to help you as well because it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship

See a good solicitor. It'll be worth the cost. I was in a similar dynamic, gave up any chance of career to follow exh around for his job, then became a sahm through both our choice, gave him the opportunity to build a successful business. We're nearing the end of financial agreements and when ex h realised what the courts would award me if we went to court (and bare in mind we get on fine, we discuss things and I'm not just rinsing him dry!) has come to the agreement that I get the house (minus a small amount of a equity), he'll pay child maintenance (which on that amount and your H amount is a good amount a month really) and he'll continue to pay the mortgage and bills for the house until youngest child is at school and I can get a job. I can't get a mortgage right now because of being a sahm but you can transfer a mortgage to someone else as long as they have the means to pay it. We're lucky in that we have a small mortgage and large amount of equity.
Going to court I was advised because of our set up I could have been awarded more than this, but considering our history I'm more than happy with it. I'd really get advice, the courts favour sahp in divorces

you sound overwhelmed
You do need to speak to a solicitor.
50/50 is part of it. But so are a whole load of other things -thsts why there's no neat calculator to show exactly what you get.
You are married. Half of all assets are yours...house,car, pension etcetc
Read up on the government website -its a clear plain-speaking place to start.
And then focus on the kids; not you, not him. And getting a fair settlement benefits them.
You were a family unit so have worked so the salaries coming into the house were equally yours. Thats the law.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/divorce_separation/4229030-CM-with-50-50

There are a huge number of misconceptions about 50/50 child arrangements and CMS. See the thread I linked to. Go and check on the CMS calculator.

You will get child maintenance and almost definitely spousal maintenance.

Please get legal advice OP. Get copies of documents and keep passports, birth certificates etc. If you are worried re your safety speak to solicitor about this and if need be police. Good luck.

Why don't you want the dad to have 50/50?

@Loveacoseynightin

Why don't you want the dad to have 50/50?

Because he's never actually done 10% of the care, never mind 50%. Because OP is worried about safety, which implies abuse.

That's for starters.

If it wouldn't be safe for you and the children to stay if you separated, what can you do to improve this? Consult lawyer in secret, call police, social services, get family involved?