Divorce/spousal maintence

[BB1991]

Hi,

looking for people who have been through a divorce, my friend is going through a divorce and she seems to think she can make a claim for Spousal maintence despite him already paying CM and a partial contribution to the rent, She is refusing to work.
he is on a 5 figure salary.

what are peoples thoughts/personal experience with this sitatuon?

He has 2 children 1 on the way with a new partner and assetts to split.

Is your friend's name Sally?

@Cairnterrorist

Thank you :)

[quote BB1991]@LApprentiSorcier

As in you believe it is a fair contribution at this moment in time or you feel unfair and should be paying more?

:)[/quote]
I don't have enough information to say!

All I mean is that people don't usually work six days a week unless they are in need of the money. With a baby on the way he's got a lot of expenses on the horizon, in addition to his responsibilities to his existing DC. It doesn't sound as though he is rolling in money.

@LApprentiSorcier

Ahh i understand, yes its just kind of all roads are leading to getting Soon to be EX wife getting a job really! thats how i see it anyway,

again thanks for your info:)

all roads are leading to getting Soon to be EX wife getting a job really! thats how i see it anyway

Yes, I think you're right. Obviously not the easiest of times to be looking for work at the moment, but she could start seeing what's out there, look at childcare options, polish up her CV, psych herself up and so on.

@LApprentiSorcier In someways it may make it easier as everything is now remote!

Thank you for your advice :)

[quote BB1991]@LApprentiSorcier In someways it may make it easier as everything is now remote!

Thank you for your advice :)[/quote]
You can’t be serious with this comment.

@Cairnterrorist ?

Working and making a living remotely? what is wrong with this comment?

Hughes to unemployment in years and economic depression is what’s wrong with it.

You can’t be that stupid, surely?

*highest

I imagine BB1991 is referring to childcare options being easier if working from home. Many jobs where home working was possible but not common have moved to more remote working, e.g. call centre work. It doesn't change the fact that mass unemployment has devastated the jobs situation, but it may at least mean BB1991's friend has a wider pool of options for remote working.

@LApprentiSorcier

Thank you for that, i will not dignify that comment with a response i do not take kindly to being called stupid.

With friends qualifications ect the jobs/wage she can apply for right now are not limited at all, and yes child care much easier whilst working remotely.

Thank you
:)

Spousal is regarded as income and so would come off of UC.
Unlike CMS
If you're relying on UC you don't want Spousal or global.

OP, just admit you're the OP who started a thread about SM the other day. You will only get the same information you have been told a hundred times.

@Doyoumind

Hiya, again this is not about me and i started this thread because i couldnt find relevant information on this site, i was just interested in other peoples opinions/personal experiences.
Do you have the link to the other thread??

thank you x

You’ve had the link multiple times on this thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/divorce_separation/4138162-Spousal-Maintenance-vs-Universal-Credit

My friend receives spousal maintenance but her ex husband earned high six figures when they split due to the business taking off.

I can't see how he could be made to pay it here from what you've said.

@Cairnterrorist

Thanks.

I was unaware it was the same link. (this link is also quite different to this situation I have stated)

Also kindly please stop commenting on this thread you have offered no new information on the subject or advice I am not sure what your aim is?

Thank you in advance.

@Jobsharenightmare

It all seems to be a lot higher figure salary is when the courts offer it then and i assume he can afford it on a higher salary than someone on the lower salary i have stated.

Thank you for your information it is greatly appreciated. :)

I'm sure I've read this thread a few times over the last few weeks!!

I’m not sure you understand how mumsnet works 😂😂😂

@Cairnterrorist

Also if you are saying the person who wrote that other link is me,

She seems too clearly not go back to work and expect her life to paid for. (which is wrong)

As you can see i am also against this and just trying to gather information.

If this was my situation like i have told the soon to be ex W i would be grateful for the rent help, greatful for the CM as most people do not even recieve that! and start looking for a job!

So again thank you for your comments :)

Also if you are saying the person who wrote that other link is me,

I never said that op.

The two situations are very similar but I never said you were the person who wrote the other thread.

A woman of working age with no disability or significant long term illness is unlikely to get a judge to grant spousal (after spending a fortune on legal fees) an older woman (60+) who's supported a high earner by being a SAHP and been used to a lifestyle they'll never support on their own (having never worked outside the home etc.) has a better chance, but even then it will probably be time limited.

This is something lots of women who are SAHP don't seem to get, in the event of a divorce you get some protection from being married in terms of a share of assets (property, pensions etc.) and child maintenance but your DH walks away with the rest of their salary, future earning potential, ability to get a mortgage etc.

@trevthecat

I have read thread where women are refusing to work and see it fit there Ex H should pay for them the rest of there lives.

I am simply trying to find out again other peoples experiences with this.

But again thank you for the comment :)