So, here goes ....
I have finally come to the conclusion that my marriage of 21 years has run its course. No ones fault, no affairs, no unreasonable behaviour - we have just grown apart. I am sitting stbx down tomorrow to tell him we need to separate (which I'm dreading). But, what then?
We have 2 children together (18 year old at uni and 22 year old lives at home, but works). I pay the mortgage, all the bills, send my duaghter money, subsidise my son. He pays for food and holidays. I can't afford to move out and keep on paying the mortgage and bills etc. My daughter still needs a home when she is back from uni and my son has asked if he can come with me whatever I do. But how can I ask stbx to move out when it's his home too and me instigating the separation? But why should he stay in a 4 bed house on his own, that I am paying for (presumably I have to continue paying the mortgage and bills until the house is sold or I buy him out)?
Any help, advice or words of support would be very much appreciated!