How are you coping?

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I'm struggling at the moment. Not sleeping. SOOOO stressed. It just feels really bleak.
Can anyone suggest how they get through?
Any top tips?
I have medication (propranolol and zopiclone) but I'm really trying to avoid it if possible.

I am going through similar. Sleeping badly and taking Citalopram. My ex dh is being so unreasonable and truly hates me (split was my choice). Everyone keeps telling me this is the worst bit and to remember that things will get better. I’m holding onto that!

I honestly think the answer is accepting that the meds are there to help you. A good night sleep often makes all the difference between unable to see a way forward and having a reasonable day. Don't see it as something to avoid but a crutch to have you survive today. You will come through it...

I'm finding it hard too; not sleeping well just makes everything worse.

I've got Zopiclone from the Dr & use it occasionally- eg after an argument when the Adrenalin is flowing & I have an important meeting at work.

I'm trying to change my mindset about sleep & trying not to worry about not sleeping.

Running helps burn off the stress.

I'm planning things for "the other side" - eg booking a cottage in a scenic place to go away with my sister & her kids in the holidays. So I have something to look forward to.

It's difficult. I watch coaching videos as a bit of a hand hold. I like Angie Atkinson and Stephanie Lyn coaching both on YouTube. Do something that makes you feel good every day. A walk, a swim, a book, a TV show. Eat well. Feeling your feelings is part of the process of moving on. Try and think of this as your time, time to find out what makes you happy. Good luck

I struggled massively. For first 18 months I slept on floor in another room. Things got a bit easier when he left. And I got the bed back.

Didnt take meds although gp offered them to me. Had support from a lady from victim support for a while.

Had a lot of sleepless nights.

How I got through:
I took one day at a time.
One thing at a time
One step at a time.

Tried not to look to the end but focused on the bit that I had to deal with.

Of course you have to think about the future at times and work out things but not dwell on it as it is not here yet.

Found some fabulous ladies on here and we support each other and vent to each other.

Stay strong.