Husband refuses to separate / sell house / accept its over

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We've been together nearly 10 years. Married for 5 years in March.

He's a great dad, adores our son.

He's not a get husband, friend or companion.

I can't do anything right, I get shouted and sworn at daily (fat, scum, useless, good for nothing, fatty pig pig, smelly) DAILY.

I can't take this anymore 😰
I appreciate I married him and I have made my bed, so I should lie in it but I feel helpless. I suffer with anxiety and it seems to be getting worse.

I don't want my child listening to him verbally ridiculing me anymore.

He won't admit the marriage is over, we own our house, there's around 80k equity. He can't afford to buy me out so we'd HAVE to sell. He won't agree to any of that and if I bring it us he just says "shut up bitch" and walks off.

He says he'll fight me in court for custody if I try and leave.

Help 💔

How are hind at home?

This is coercive control which is domestic abuse and is illegal. You need to see a solicitor to understand your rights but get a case worker via women's aid as you may qualify for free legal advise. Mine is refusing to leave too so you have my sympathy. I know how hard it can be day in day out feeling 'stuck'

Just in case anyone is still lurking on this thread, I have left the family home with our son.

It's scary and I don't know really know what's going to happen next.

My solicitor suggested asking him to move out and if that doesn't work she'll send him a letter requesting that he moves out. After that it would be applying for an emergency injunction and occupation order.

Well done.
I hope you are safe and feeling less stressed.
Good luck 💐

Well done

Well done!! Stay strong. If you wobble, read all those emails you sent yourself.

So I just wanted to update this thread.

Myself and my three year old moved back to the family home, and my ex husband moved to his parents around a month ago, he also applied for a rental property. As soon as the lockdown was announced, he came back to the home and it's been a rocky month.

Friday he had a call from his estate agent and was told business was resuming and his application was being processed for a flat and yesterday he signed the tenancy and moved out!

I can't believe I had the courage to leave him, to see it through and now I've filed for divorce. He received the papers Friday.

He has said I can keep the martial home, however what's £30,000 which obviously I haven't got. My family have said they'll give me £15,000 to pay towards his settlement. We paid a £60,000 deposit when we bought our house just over a year ago so basically he wants half of that.

I have no idea what to offer him? I am just so glad that we're officially separated. For anyone reading this post going through something similar - just do it. You won't look back!

Well done. I’m so glad you got free. I wish you a rosy future.

Well done

He wishes you would have died!!!!!! Oh he’s a real bloody charmer isn’t he, hit him where it hurts in his pocket, my heart goes out to you, I bet you will feel hundred times better when you get away from this brute

Oh just seen you have left good on ya

So pleased for you.

Well done.
Back to solicitor for advice re settlement

Well done OP, stay strong.