I’m currently awaiting my Decree Nisi and am trying to sort the financial split with my S2BX. We’ve been married almost 10 years and have two children, aged 5 and 6. I used to work in a well-paid position in an Insurance firm, but gave up to look after our kids (they’re so close in age it made sense to stay home rather than put them in childcare). I’ve since worked in childcare, as a TA in my daughters’ school so I can be there to drop them to school and collect them every day. I have also started childminding this year, offering wraparound care for children at the school to earn a bit more. Unfortunately, because I’ve been childminding for less than 2yrs, no mortgage provider will take my earnings into account, so all I can evidence is £370pcm as a part-time TA. My contract at the school ends next month and they don’t have a position available to keep me on. My husband earns £102kpa, plus a discretionary bonus (in the 5yrs he’s been at the firm, it’s varied between £22k-£35k). His travel and lunch is paid for by the firm as a benefit in kind. We have £400k equity in the house and he has a pension of just under £300k. My pension is £60k. He is proposing that we split the equity in the house, giving me £250k and him £150k. He said he will pay £1k each month in child maintenance and give me £600pm in spousal maintenance. A 3 bed semi (we’re currently in 4 bed detached) in this area is £450k at a minimum, so I accept that we need to move, possibly much further away. This may mean the girls changing school and will certainly mean I can no longer keep my childminding clients. We have our next Mediation session in a couple of weeks to try to sort out the finances. Is what he is proposing correct? I don’t see how I will house, heat, feed and clothe the girls on this basis, but am soooo determined to not end up in a fight with him about money as it is absolutely key that we remain amicable for the girls’ best interests. Just need to prepare myself if his suggested division of assets is the likely outcome.