How do I do this?

[Trapped34]

I would like to separate from my husband, and this is a decision I have made after 26 years of being with him, and always having hope that it will get better, I just can’t do it anymore. How do I do this?

Practically;

• finances : will you need to sell a house, buy him out / move?

Have you spoken to him at all about how you feel?
How would he take it do you think ?

I just don’t know how he’ll take it, probably anger.
Finances could potentially be ok, but I don’t want to leave the house, and I know he won’t, because he views it as his house.

You need to make sure your finances are as separate as possible. You need to gather any and all important paperwork/documents. You need a solicitor as soon as possible. Unfortunately, you may need to acknowledge that the loss of your house is a small price to pay for your freedom and happiness.

Thanks Aquamarine1029, that’s good advice, really appreciated

You can do this op, brilliantly I'm sure. Just think, in just a year your life can be completely different. You have a wonderful future to look forward to! Take one day at a time and you will get there.

Make sure you divorce and not separation.
Why would you not want to move you’ll love it start afresh leave the house with all the memories behind.
It will be a laugh choosing new furniture,beddings your own bed.
Can I go on ...it will definitely keep you occupied.
All the best .

I'm the same. It's only been a year of our marriage but he changed as soon as we got married. He doesn't like my Eldest daughter she's 17 with a rare condition that effects her physically and mentally also been on chemotherapy. My youngest daughter rebelled and he wanted her to be put into a home until her Dad took her to live with him thank God! I used to be so happy and loved life now I'm hating every part of each day. He controls all of us we can't even watch his TV! I want him to leave but I'm scared of what will happen. Help please!