Hello all
I originally posted when my husband of 6 weeks left me. He gave me no real explanation other than our relationship was an unhappy one and moved to his mother and stepdads place. We have an almost 3 year old DS together.
After trying to talk it came about that my mental health had been one of the things that had led us down that path. I didn't deal with my depression when it first surfaced after my son was born and it got progressively worse. I am now in a better place mentally.
After being gone 9 weeks, DH had a huge falling out with his stepdad and left. He asked to come home as he had nowhere to go. He's in the spare room and although we've been getting on really well, we're not together.
My update is this: I have never been one to snoop but after going out all weekend to his friends and staying out - something he hates doing...i logged onto his laptop. I found messages between him and a friend and DH admitted to having an affair with a mutual friend of theirs for 9 months - before we got married. She is also very recently married to her husband (they got married in June this year and my DH and I in May). In the messages were no feeling of guilt just trying to justify it. Telling him they are crazy about each other, that was why he left me but she was deciding whether to leave her husband.
When he returned today, he left his apple watch on charge whilst cutting the grass so I took the opportunity to have a look
He had messages from another girl he recently started working with, flirty in nature - mainly on his part - turns out she's a teenager (my DH is 32). I can't get my head around this.. The new girl is only since we seperated but the girl he's having an affair with - if he's crazy about her and left his marriage for her then why message another girl? This is not the man I've known for 6 years.. I have no idea who he is anymore.