Hi everyone,
I am really at my whits end with the father of my child who is a beautiful 5 month old baby girl. He was really emotionally abusive during my pregnancy and after, he suffers from ADHD and bipolar (not sure it's been diagnosed). He used to call me names and make me feel awful everyday even though I had done nothing wrong. He would always realise the next day, apologise but keep repeating the cycle. I stayed with him for 2 months after DD was born as he was still shouting at me and calling names when she was around and I couldn't have that.
The issue now is he would still message me saying horrible things on Facebook and will do to my face now as well. It got so bad I had to block him on everything and I now contact him through my mum. I thought this would solve the issue but he still talks to me absolutely horribly, calling me names and just being nasty. He has asked me to write a letter saying he can have access to DD twice a week but I am waiting to see a mediator to see what they advice. I have said I will not write this letter until I have seen them and he is proceeding to blackmail me and not give me any child support until it has been written and won't have her when I want him to.
I just want to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what the outcome is with the mediator? I don't even really want him to go through my mum as everything he says comes back to me and it is really upsetting when he is trying to blackmail me.
He was so used to getting exactly what he wants now I'm not giving in he is being so horrible to me and I just can't deal with it anymore. I know he is a good dad when he is with her which is why I can't take her away from him no matter how difficult he is making my life.
Thanks everyone I would love to hear your experiences x