What has your ex done out of spite just to piss you off?

[joliejoleen]

Mine has decided that he will be seeing each of his children separately - as in one DS this Friday and the other DS next Friday. This is to make sure that I NEVER have a moment to myself as my ex can't stand the idea of me being with someone else 🙄
Anyone else with a seeyounexttuesday ex?

@rainbowlou
This has brought tears to my eyes. What a vile man. I'm so sorry 😔

Oh and the second ex, the worst he has done/is doing is refusing me access to our daughter for no reason other than control.

@joliejoleen he wasn’t a nice man at all but those 2 things upset me so much because they can never be replaced.
He showed his true colours to my dd and has no relationship with her so he has missed out, I hope he regrets that for the rest of his miserable life.

to everyone on the thread

These men are awful!!

I recent split with my ex, about 6 weeks He took out a loan and spent every night in the pub. I'm not exaggerating, I am friends with the workers there and they insist on telling me. I took our daughter to the Zoo, he told me not to spend money because we don't have any, that night he was in the pub again.

When we split but we're still living together, he came home from the pub about 2am, banging about. I came down to tell him to be quiet as he was waking the baby. The next morning I went to walk the dog and he had p*ssed in all of my shoes.

We split because he was a major cheater.

Ex p refuses to see our dc because I put a claim in with the CSA. I had asked for more money prior to this but he refused. So I had no choice but to go to the CSA. He has not seen our dc for about 6 years. Ex P is only doing this because he likes to be "in control".

Wtf 😳 who raises these losers?!

How can you not see your own children for 6 years?!

Quite a hall of fame building up here.
Every time I think I've heard the worst, another appears.
Its like top of the pops from years ago.
'Top of the cocks'

Yes, a truly shameful lot of malicious losers.... and ultimately they really are the losers because so often their adult DCs don’t want to see them (which they would of course blame on anyone but themselves)

I keep coming back to read everyones' stories.
Everyone should tell their story and be heard.
And to everyone of you who has suffered abuse of any kind just be so proud of yourselves that you managed to get away from the bastards.

My wife cancelled the car insurance so I couldn't drive my daughter to a swimming lesson. She promised to pay her mobile phone bill of £335 in September but has never bothered. She took the phone out in my name and now and it is now a ccj. Last month she said she would pay me my share of our family car but guess what.... after handing the key back I'm still waiting. She just loves the control and creating dramas.
She hates the fact I have a photograph of the black eye she gave me and that I've gone to the bank and got my bank statements to prove financial abuse

yellowshirt my ex cancelled the car insurance and didn't tell me. Also wouldn't give me any details of it when he eventually told me ( 4 months later) so I had to start from scratch with no claims, despite having 20 years no claims

Threatened to kill himself so he didn't have to pay maintenance 🙄

Exh told his teenage kids he was having an affair before I found out about it. They must have felt terrible.

He also cancelled the joint AA membership without telling me. I only found out when I was stuck 10 miles from home with a burst tyre.

I stopped liking my ex way before we stopped living together. I got used to the lies and spiteful behaviour before that, so it was more of a relief once we seperated.

My ex carries on doing that with added toxic parenting and parental alienation for the 2 hours contact she has on a weekly basis which wastes the dcs time, reduces the quality of the contact and does away with any opportunity to build a relationship with them. They look forward to it and come home upset.

That's the trouble with these self centered self indulgent people. The collateral damage is the very people they complain that they want to emotionally neglect spend time with.

I won't detail some of my ex's spiteful behaviours, suffice to say even the dcs children's protection social worker said was way too much, and the recommendation to the court reflected that. But my favourite phrase from the section 7 was "shows superficial awareness of her own behaviours".

Says it all

I can’t believe how many men like this around.. I was so naive for so long, thinking that my ex “surely can not be such a bad person...”

He left me with no financial support and a lot of arrears whilst still living in the house - to teach me a lesson how hard life is

He refused to help me with the council tax and the same day bought kids Xbox to upset me

A lot of verbal and emotional abuse and telling very young kids how neurotic their mother is.

Once I was going for a dinner to a friends house, he was 2h late hoping I will be to embarrassed to go so late and when I put my shoes on he said if I wasn’t back at 11pm he will lock me out till 7am

Lots of stories like that. I am so in awe of all of you who went through similar and got out !

One time there was no maintenance so I asked where it was. He said, ‘here it is’ and lifted up his T-shirt to show a tattoo of a pair of angel wings which he had used my maintenance money for.

Cancelled my son's cardiology appointment :(

We had a multicar policy and he canclled it and only gave me 2 days to sort new insurrance..............he said this was advice from the insurrance company as we seperated but we had well over 8 months left on the policy

School holidays and as per usual he decided to cancel seeing DC a few days before he was due to have them for four days (He refused to have them longer than this). He wanted me to beg, but I was sick of his torture games and I arranged other help so I could work and said it was fine. So he was flaming angry and told DC that I had cancelled his time and he took me to court. He said I was stopping them seeing him. He said he wanted the judge to tell me off and hired an expensive solicitor.

He got his comeuppance. One of the best days of my life was seeing ex being told that he has parental responsibilities and me walking away from court knowing he had agreed a pattern of care and shouldn't break it.

@bellamorella I remember you posting about that at the time!! How is your son doing?

Thanks for asking @cricketmum84 - he's doing great. Just the most perfect, lovely little baby. How anyone could do such a thing to such a beautiful little boy is beyond me.

Great to have this thread and feeling like other people feel it too.

My ex used is a higher earner and used to contribute to our child's swimming and gymnastics lessons. He then pulled this money without notice. His parents then sent me a message saying he's not legally obliged to pay any more than statutory child maintenance payments. My parents then took up the payments for his classes, despite being pensioners.

He also used to have a set of my keys after we first broke up. He used my keys to get into my house and take all my tax credit documents and send me photos of the documents at his house, arguing this was an argument for paying less.

The list is endless, it still goes on

Spacey - I understand this "it stil goes on"...I realised that today it is still going on for me and DC after 3 years, but I'm glad I don't register it in the same way.

My ex constantly tells DC lies, he keeps their things at his, doesn't do homework or practical things for them etc., but I don't acknowledge it in the same way. I see it, hear it, but don't reflect on it.

Maybe through this thread we can share it happens, but that we can be strong and focus on DC. I cannot imagine being spiteful like my ex!

Suddenly gone no contact for no reason I can ascertain when there are still loose ends to tie up. Ho hum. No skin off my nose really.